Ceremonial Introductions Business Social Etiquette Harold Almon University Grooming Etiquette

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In ceremony, you can be introduced by letter. In social life, a letter of introduction may only be obtained if offered. The writer is to give the letter to you unsealed. You may read it, and seal it, or leave it unsealed. Deliver the letter with your card to the person to whom it is addressed. Sit and wait until it has been read. The response to a letter of introduction is to be, "How do you do?" The reply is to be, "How do you do?"

In high official life, women are presented to, and men are introduced to, Heads of State, church dignitaries, and to royalty. Introductions to these people can be accomplished by a person saying only the title and last name of the person being presented: that is the junior person's title and last name.

At an informal official ceremony a person may say the name of the senior person, and follow with, "I have the honor to present," and then give the title and last name of the junior person.

At a formal dinner party the host is to see that a man either knows, or is presented to the lady, he is to "Take in" to dinner. During the reception hour, you can seek out the woman you will take in to dinner, and announce yourself by saying the title and last name of this person. Add, "I am...," and follow with your first and last name, or title and last name. Then ask, "May I take you in to dinner?" or "May I have the pleasure of taking you in to dinner?"

Such introductions are to be accomplished only when the host or hostess fails to provide a proper introduction.

If you have asked for an invitation for a stranger, present that person to your host.

Forgotten Names Introductions Business Social Etiquette Harold Almon University Grooming Etiquette

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You can accomplish a forgotten name introduction by looking at the person whose name has been forgotten and saying, "I would like you to meet, “This is," "You have met," or "You already know...." Then provide the first and last name of the person whose name you remembered. One may hope that the unnamed person will introduce him or herself. The person could say, “I do not believe that we have met,” or “I do not believe that I have had the pleasure,” and go on to do a self introduction.

You could say,  "I am sorry for forgetting." Then say, (RSTW:) “Remind me your name again,” 'Say your name again," "Tell me your name again," or "What is your name again."

This may also be done right after someone says your name, and joins you, when someone else is talking with you, and you don't have a clue what the name is of the new person. The unnamed person is to tell you his or her name. You can then introduce this person by saying, "This is..." and go on to introduce the person to whom you were talking. Then repeat the name of the person you had forgotten.

You may say, “You two introduce yourselves." A more senior person could hide in a bathroom, and send out a scout.

Making Introductions Business Social Etiquette Harold Almon University Grooming Etiquette

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When making introductions, be cordial; get the titles and names correct. You can ask for someone’s full name before an introduction, by saying (MR.STW) “May I know your name?” “Remind me your name.” “Say your name.” “Tell me your name.” “Tell me your full name again." or “What is your name?”

Introductions between strangers are to take place at any meeting, whenever it seems natural or makes people feel more at ease, and any place where they can prevent thoughts of impropriety. They are to be based on seniority, position, and lastly on sex.

Remember, the name of the senior person is said first or that a junior person is to be introduced to a senior person. Say the name of the senior person first, by his or her title and last name (or first name only) to attract attention.

Then follow with, “It is my honor to present the men and women of,” “May I present (or introduce),” “This is,” or “I would like you to meet,” and then provide the name of the junior person, or group by associative title. Then say the title and/or name that the junior person is to use when addressing the senior person: his or her title and last name, (or first name only.)

You can say the name of the senior person, and then say the name of the junior person, and then just stop.

You can accomplish an introduction after saying the name of the junior person first. Say the name, then say, “Let me present you to,” “introduce you to,” or “ Please join me in saying hello to,” or “welcome to,” and then go on to provide the title and last name, or the first and last name of the senior person, the guest of honor, or of the lone person meeting a group of people.

In business, it is considerate for an introducer to add a few words as to how a person is connected to a business or organization. You can repeat the name of the junior person, and add, "Has just joined," "has been assigned to...," or "is the...," and then go on to state the connection. Then repeat the name of the senior person, and say, "... is the...,” and follow with the position title of the senior person. Introduce one person to another, one, or two, at a time. Let further introductions develop naturally.

When introducing a speaker give the exact title of the speaker's talk. Build a bridge between the topic and the interest it has to the audience. Then give the speaker's name, distinctly and clearly. Get and review a copy of the speaker's bio benefit resume prior to giving the introduction.

(When to Say Something) When to Be Silent Business Social Etiquette Harold Almon University Grooming Etiquette

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Say something to anyone to whom you have been introduced, (with or without remembering any names.) It is required.

In social life, the roof of a friend's house serves as an introduction. When you meet someone under it, say something. Speak softly when deferring to a senior person. Talk a little. Say a lot. Tell no more than someone needs to know.

In public, omit from speaking with those who have yet to be introduced. At a social event, you may make a casual remark about the beauty of the building, or the bride, but continued talking is to depend on mutual willingness. Introductions are usually omitted.

In business, say something when you have something to contribute. Avoid giving unsolicited advice, or being unduly critical, unless you are a consultant. Avoid verbal pauses.

Be silent when listening to anyone. (Notice you can spell silent and listen with the same letters.)

Listen with the conscious intent of not stepping on another person's communication. Look at the person who is speaking. Every once in a while nod in affirmation. This gives assurance that your silence is not so steadfast as to be interpreted as insolence.

Being silent does not indicate agreement, or intent to comply. It instead affirms another person's right to be heard.

Be silent for an extended period, to discontinue unwelcome conversation. Indicate this action by looking away, or looking through the person who is speaking.

"Never let an S.O.B know that you know that he or she is an S.O.B." A better option is have something that you have to get out, someone who is waiting, or somewhere you have to be. Say, "Got to go."

Be silent during the playing of any nation's National Anthem. Outdoors, face the sound of the music. Stand at attention. When your nation's flag can be seen, place hand over heart.

Be silent, after you have asked or received a question, and after the listener has answered.

Be silent, when you feel compelled to continue talking, and when you want to call attention to a short coming, - assuming that it was unintentional. The benefit will be the number and length of responses will increase, as will the amount of unsolicited information; you will have time to understand what was is being said, and; you will gain time to formulate your next comment.

"Do not miss a good opportunity to be silent." On occasion, with peers, play a game called the silent game. Practice saying nothing for twenty-four seconds. (Yes count them.) See who can not help filling in the silence.

When to Sit Down Business Social Etiquette Harold Almon University Grooming Etiquette

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A man is free to sit only when a senior man who is visiting asks that he be seated and/or when a woman who is visiting either sits or leaves.

When a woman elects to sit, the man to her left is to pull out her chair, and assist her in setting it in place (if practical.)

In the United States of America, honor is to the right. When sitting with someone, you can sit to the left of any person of the opposite sex. You may sit opposite and across from your spouse, any senior person, and from any person of the same sex.

Avoid sitting with your back to a sun filled window. Move one space to the left of the window position and sit. You are to sit to the outside of any head or booth table when a woman is in your company, unless otherwise directed. This is an accepted deviation from honor to the right seating.

At a banquette table, sit facing the wall, in difference to any senior person.

When you sit, approach the chair and pause. Maintain good posture. Pull the chair out. When there is a choice. Enter in the seat space from the left, (exit from the right.) Ensure it is set or placed so that you can keep upper body posture.

Bend your knees and purposefully lower your body. Keep your upper and lower body in alignment. Stay balanced. Sit on the edge of the chair first. Place your hands on the sides of seat, lift your buttocks, and pull the chair towards you or to push yourself towards the back of the chair. Sit as if you belong. When sitting, avoid showing the sole of your shoe. It is considered an insult in more than one country.

When under a roof, in a place other than your home, when you sit, shoes on the floor.

When to Get Up Business Social Etiquette Harold Almon University Grooming Etiquette

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In a business, a person is to get up to be introduced, and at the conclusion of a meeting. A man is to stand whenever a senior person or visitor enters a room. Getting up is to be based on the position of the person entering the room. This action is normally omitted in regards to an immediate supervisor, co-worker, or when you are ill, or old. A receptionist or a secretary is usually not expected to rise to greet each caller, but may do so as a mark of honor or friendship. A more senior person can avoid getting up to greet a job applicant for a non-executive position. This person may rise for a junior person at a first interview, and at a last interview when an employee is leaving an organization

Remain standing as long as a senior person does, or until you are specifically asked to do otherwise. In business, a senior woman in your chain of command may say, “This is business, you can sit. (Do it.)” Remain standing as long as any man or peer who is talking remains standing.

In social life, stand, if a woman comes to, or is brought to, your desk or table. Stand as long as any woman near is standing (even when asked to do otherwise.) Stand to answer any woman who addresses a remark. Stand the entire time anyone in your party is engaged in conversation with a woman at your table, no matter how long. You can even eat standing. (You may omit standing, when a woman who is working in public comes to your table, unless she is also a close friend.)

In a private home, get up every time a woman enters a room. Remain standing as long as any woman near does, or until specifically asked to do otherwise. When there are more than twelve guests in the room, rise only when a woman joins your group. During an informal occasion as a host you may rise and go forward to greet each adult guest, but not necessarily to greet a child. Handshaking is a probability.

When getting up, pause; keep your upper and lower body in alignment. You can place your hands on the sides of your chair, lift your buttocks, and push your chair back or pull yourself towards the front of your chair. Then you may swivel right and use your hands on your thighs to pull yourself straight up maintaining good posture alignment and your weight evenly balanced. Handshaking may be omitted, or is optional at the lead of the senior person.

When you stand, understand the rules of "Proximics:" how close someone else is willing to stand next to you. As a rule, one to eighteen inches is considered an intimate contact zone. Eighteen to thirty inches is considered a social zone. In the United States of America, most public actions are to be conducted in the social zone.

When you stand, avoid fussing with your hair, picking the lint off of your shoulder, straightening your tie, smoothing your clothing, and/or attempting to scrub the "Damn spot" from your hand. Leave this action to Lady Macbeth. You may offer any visitor a chair.

When a woman gets up, rise half way up to acknowledge her departure. The man to her left is to assist her in getting up. He is to help by pulling out her chair, and then pushing it in to a place six inches in from the edge of the table.

Announcing Yourself in Public Business Social Etiquette Harold Almon University Grooming Etiquette

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Announce yourself by saying, a greeting for the time of day. Add, "My name is," or "I am," and follow with your first and last name. Do this when entering the reception area of a home where you are not known, nor expected, and/or when reminding someone you have met socially of your name. You may add, "We visited at So and so’s place not too long ago," or “I am a friend of...," and go on to provide the name of the person you mutually know.

You can announce/identify yourself to a junior person by your title and last name, or by the title and name that person is to use when addressing you. Do this when addressing a family member who is very young, a household staff member, a person you have not met socially, and/or when on business, when you are unwilling to have someone address you by your first name alone.

When someone calls you by your first name and it is not at your request you can say,” “What did you call me?” Do you know me? (Do you know the person you are calling?) When you call a person by a first name you are asking to speak to a child, a colleague, or to a friend. One can be inappropriate, the other inaccurate. You can add "In polite society you do not call a person by a first name unless asked. I did not do so. You are not a colleague and you are certainly not a friend." You may then say, "I am," and then follow with your title and last name. (I just had to rant.) You may wait until you are older before doing this.

Addressing Someone Business Social Etiquette Professional and University Grooming Etiquette

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When addressing someone in person, first provide a greeting appropriate for the time of day. Address any senior person by title and name, unless asked to do otherwise. Avoid having someone say “I’ll have Mr. Almon,” or “Sir,” or you can or should address me as (followed by an honorific and a name/or a surname.)

At a social function, outside the office, you can address an immediate superior by a first name, and revert to title and last name back in the office (unless asked to do otherwise.) The reverse can be true for a senior person. A peer or personal friend may be addressed by a first name alone (when more senior, when alone.)

A woman is to be addressed based on her job position. A senior woman is to be addressed by her title and last name. When a senior woman, at a work site, is called by her first name by her superior, she is being demeaned, or by her subordinates, she is being disrespected. The same is true for a man.

A woman can request that she be addressed by a first or last name only. It is she, or the most senior person among the friends, who is to take the initiative, and call a first name, first. Most women in business have become accustomed to being addressed by their first or last name only, and may request that this be done. Wait to call a woman by her first name until she takes the initiative.

Note. A person who serves is to address a person as "Sir," "Madam," “Ma’am," or "Miss," or omit the name altogether. He or she is to refer to a man indirectly as "The gentleman," or "That gentleman,” or to a woman as, "The lady," or "That lady."

A customer is to refer to another man or a peer as "The man” or “That man" ("The woman" or "That woman.") Informally you may refer to a peer as "He" or "She."

When expected in a reception area, expect to be greeted by your title and/or last name. The greeter may add "I am..." and go on to provide the name you are to use when addressing him or her. Listen well; avoid having someone say, “You should address me as….”

When addressing someone from another country, remember the surname is not always the last name heard. In Spain, the surname is the second name in a three part name. In China, the surname is the first name in a three part name. In Bangkok the title for a man or woman is Khan (Coon) alone, or with a first name.

In Germany, the title for a man is Herr. The title for a professional woman is Frau (even if she is single.) The title for a non-professional woman is Fraulein (even if she is middle aged, and/or married.)

Consult a business center in the culture you are visiting. Learn the manner in which people in it are to be addressed.

University Grooming Etiquette Bowing Business Social Etiquette

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A bow is used to acknowledge an introduction, or the presence of a person following the lead of the senior person. All bows are to be acknowledged. It can be performed while in place, and then a conversation may be continued. In the United States of America, a woman is to bow to a man first. In European culture, a man bows to a woman first. Look directly at the other person, and bow.

A man is to bow in the vein of clicking the heels together (only the motion is made,) and making a quick bend down from the hips, and making a bend up from the chin, as if the hip and neck had two hinges. Remain rigid between the neck and the back. Arms and hands are to be at the sides.

A woman is to bow with her hands folded in front of her legs, while bending down from the waist.

For informal occasions, a modified bow can be done, in lieu of handshaking, and will keep a person in good stead throughout life. It is to be a slight inclination of the head and shoulders, as if to relay the thought, "Why so it is you, how good to see you," and a smile.

A junior person can make the gesture of rising half way up to bow or to return a bow to a senior person. Then sit down. An elderly man may lean and face forward, and gravely bow his head, to acknowledge a senior person. Remain seated when bowing to a contemporary or junior person.

In Asian culture, a bow may precede or replace a handshake. People bow together. The bend is down from the chin. The body and head is lowered downward about sixty degrees. The lower the head: the greater the degree of politeness of the bow. It is accomplished with just a smile. It may be accomplished with the words, "How do you do?" An informal bow may be accompanied with the word, "Hello."

In some Asian cultures, a Wai: made by bringing the hands up together in an open handed prayer position, may be proffered. It is to be responded to in kind.

In informal America, the bow sometimes is replaced by a gesture of a raised glass facing the person whose presence is being acknowledged. Ultimately it is the same thing. Avoid doing a gesture of thumbs up in response to a bow. In more than one place this sign is not considered a good thing.

A man is to refrain from bowing to Royalty to whom he is not a subject. He can bow and have a bow returned when greeting an acquaintance.

University Grooming Etiquette Giving a Hug Business Social Etiquette

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Practice giving approval. Give it. Give a hug. Hug peers more than subordinates. The first time you do so you can say, “Thanks. I'd like to give you a hug." When giving a hug, shake hands with your right hand. Place your left arm around the person's shoulder, and lean in the top part of your body. Avoid touching pelvises. Turn your head left. Hold the embrace for three to five seconds. Release it. Look this person in the eye. Smile. Step back. You can pause briefly, and then resume your conversation. Do whatever you were planning to do after the hug.

Avoid stroking, or patting a back. Socially there is a two-pat maximum.

Practice accepting approval. Allow a hug. Accept it, gracefully, (assuming it is not an act of sexual harassment.) Lean into it. If comfortable, reciprocate. Avoid acting as if you have just been zapped.

University Grooming Etiquette Using Your Business Cards Business Social Etiquette

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Be prepared to give a business card should one be requested or provided. At a minimum, have a business or organizational visiting card. It can list your logo at the top left. It may list a club or professional association allegiance logo at the top right. It is to list your first and last name, without your title, center, or just above center, the card. It can list your telephone number in the bottom right-hand corner.

When an address is added to a business visiting card, it is to be in the same font, in a smaller point size, and the business logo is to be omitted, or you now have a nice business work card. A lone address can be listed in the lower right hand corner or above a telephone number. A combination of addresses may be listed in precedence. A telephone number could be listed alone. Where appropriate, your home telephone number or an address could be added at the time you give your card to someone.

A business card holder is to be obtained. It can be a license case, a wallet, or a case designed specifically to hold cards. A holder that looks like a shrine is to be avoided. Learn to open each holder with only one hand and to close it silently. Each holder is to be carried in a breast wallet, jacket pocket, or a front pants pocket. It can be carried in a planner. Avoid carrying a card holder or cards in your back pocket. Carry both visiting and work cards. Cards are to be exchanged in kind, (or you can give someone the kind you want to be given next time.)

Use your cards. A business card can be used to demonstrate preparedness, deference, and consideration. A business card can take the place of a visiting card. The lone exception when paying calls, a visiting card can be left in a home, a business work card may not correctly be.

Business cards may be:

1. Exchanged with another person as a private gesture, before or after a meal.

2. Cards can be offered at the beginning of a meeting, or after a person is seated.

3. (In an Asian culture), a card may be offered with both hands, with it facing towards the person who is to receive it. It is to be received with both hands. However given, the gesture is to be reciprocated in kind. Each card received is to be read slowly as if being approved.

Note that in a given culture a family name may not come last. Check the forms of address: you can ask.

4. Business cards can be kept out during the entire time of a conversation. Each card can be held onto, or placed on top of a desk or table, as a sort of seating chart, as a meeting takes place.

5. A card may be read, and then carefully put away in any upper body pocket, following the lead of the senior person. It could be placed in any front pocket.

6. Avoid putting a business card away in any back pocket. The thought of you sitting on someone else's business (image) can never be a pleasant one.

7. A business card is to be omitted and replaced with a plain card, visiting card, or a correspondence card when a contact is also a friend or is otherwise socially connected.

(Continued in Using Personal and Business Cards …)

17. A business card could be used to provide someone with your personal telephone number, which might be added at the time that you decide to give it to someone.

18. A business card can be used as a memory jogger to let someone favorably remember when, where, and who was in your company when contact was made with you.

19. Cards are to be marked. The back of each is to be annotated as to the date, time, and location of the meeting where it was received. It could contain, topics discussed, suggestions given and received, and any promises made.

20. Cards are to be maintained, and can be filed by business occupational field and then alphabetically by name (in telephone book order.) Cards can be filed by site location of the first meeting. This file is to be reviewed and purged yearly. Others are to be informed when an updated card has been published, and or when an older version of a card should be destroyed.

21. Once acquired, carry business, and visiting, work cards. Provide one in kind at the time that one is given to you. When exchanging cards in person, let the senior person take the lead in offering a card.

22. Use your cards. Something is to be said for a handshake

that you can leave behind.

You can decide to be prepared with more than having cards.

You can marry traditions with technology.

You may have a smart telephone equipped with Bump: a wireless application that may be used to exchange contact information. Someone can want to Bump with you.

If someone does not have bump, you may still want email them your bump contact card.

This card is to have logo; avoid it having a picture of you. Practice using the application before your event.

You could exchange contact information with a cellular telephone. Call the person Have the person establish you as a contact. Then establish that person as a contact.

University Grooming Etiquette Walking in Company Business Social Etiquette

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In business, a junior person is to walk to the street side, or one step to the left and behind any senior person.

A senior person can walk to the left of a junior person. When this happens, a junior male is to walk behind a senior person until he can get to the other side. An employed woman is to be regarded according to her job position. In social life, a woman is to be regarded as a senior person.

Step back to let others come out of any doorway, room, elevator, or area in which you wish to enter.

Hold a door open from the side for any person in front of or immediately behind you going out of or into a doorway. Push any swinging door; go through first. You can pull any swinging door, or step back from an automatic door, and let a person precede or follow according to his or her sex or seniority. (People will notice.)

A senior person is to precede a junior person and a “Host” in going into or out of a doorway or office. Say, “Please,” to acknowledge the senior person. This person can say, “I insist.” You may say, “I yield,” “I am honored” “Thank you,” or “Sir.” The junior person is to know when to give up the fight.

You can offer to enter and exit an elevator or any doorway last. This is a right of a host or hostess. It is the duty of any person in his or her own country. Peers can go through a doorway shoulder to shoulder.

In social life, a woman in a line is to precede any man with her, unless he can in some way help by going first. In official life, an official in a line is to precede the person with him or her.

A designated escort may walk to the left and ahead of a visitor when escorting him or her into an unfamiliar area.

When walking alone, in the United States of America, walk to the right. Honor is to the right. When walking with a senior person, walk to the left and one-step behind, or to the street side.

When a senior person stops to talk to someone, to use an ATM, or to write a check, the junior person is to step back or to walk ahead slowly. The senior person is to be allowed to decide if introductions are in order.

Walk erect: as if your back rib cage is against a wall. Stop for red lights. You are walking and I can hear you. And if I do, time to learn a new way of walking or to get new shoes. Advancing is to be done on the balls of the feet. (It can be controlled from each quadrant listed for midsection management.)

Pausing - Working a Room

Learn to pause (often.) Pausing is an action that will allow you to take control of a room or to give notice of your intent to leave one. It can allow you to make your presence known without disrupting or upstaging anyone. It may let you get a little extra from being where you are.

Pausing could be done at the top of a stairs, in a hallway, doorway, or center of a room, by a mere stop. You might allow yourself to act as if you have entered a limelight. This is an especially useful thing to do, if you really do have a “bad” knee. A pause is to be enjoyed. Take a breath, or make a small noise so that someone can see you. Continue your walk in company.

University Grooming Etiquette Words to Say in Passing Business Social Etiquette Lessons

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When passing someone in business, first provide a greeting appropriate for the time of day. Say, “Good morning,” or “Good afternoon.” Know that “Good" is normally said only in business. "Good evening," is normally said only by staff to senior people. "Good night," is said only when dismissing oneself from someone else. Each phrase without the word “Good” can be said by peers. Use each, try. With peers, you can say, "Hello," “Peace,” “Out,” and “Later.”

The reply to a greeting is to be in kind. Formally, people of about the same social position can perform a greeting by saying, "How do you do?" The reply is to be "How do you do?" Avoid messing up a perfectly good “How do you do,” with a “How are you?” Informally you can say, “How are you?” The reply “How are you?” or “Very well thank you. And (how are) you?” It can be "Miserable, but thank you for asking; (and you?") People might want to see if you are listening or just need some company. More informally the reply to “What’s up?” has been seen to be “What’s up?” Sometimes a senior person will hear an informal greeting, and remain silent. (This is just an observation.) (“How do you do?”) You may say, “What’s up?” The reply is to be the same.

Acknowledge a need or a mishap in passing by saying, “Excuse me,” or “I beg your pardon.” (Avoid saying, “Pardon me.”) You can say, “I am sorry.”

Ask, “May I (we) get through please.” You can say, “After you,” “I yield,” “Please,” “I insist,” or informally, “Dance?” to let someone pass. Pass to the left. You can stay to the right. Motion with your left hand, smile, and allow the person to pass. After passing, or being allowed a request say, "You're welcome," or "Thank you," as appropriate. Learn to say, “Nice to see you,” and/or “Looks nice.” A person who is reluctant to say anything in passing is to learn how to nod.

When someone is being offensive, the best defense can sometimes be a smile, followed by a “Is there a problem here?" “You doing alright today: (street code for “What the hell?” or “You having a good day?” You can say “You O.K?” or “Can I help you.” You may say, “Good day, Sir. I say, Good day.” Be prepared to defend yourself or to duck. The best defense may be a smile, followed by, "I see," "I understand," "How can I help you," or with an "And you have a nice day." You could add, "That’s not very well brought up behavior." You might say, “Hey man, can you help me with the language. I said please.” When someone is being intrusive is has been seen said, “I am fine here, Sir,” or “I do not mean to keep you,” “May the peace of the lord be with you.” When you hear a request for, “Spare change,” what you do is up to you. When refusing an offer for charity, you are to say, “I am sorry.” When refusing an offer of an item you can press your open hand to your heart, tilt your head slightly aside and say, “Thank you.”

Verbal communication can begin with three of the four Ws or an H: When, Where, What, or How. Avoid asking why.

International Non-verbal Communication

Be careful of what you say non-verbally. Avoid signing the backward "V" for victory (“I still have my (bow) fingers,”) thumbs up or the sign for "O.K." Outside of the USA, each is considered vulgar and/or an insult in more than one culture. Signing a cross might be favored and used in lieu of signing a single finger.

Words that a woman may say better not to be believed, “Please don’t get up,” “Please sit down,” It is OK, I can manage,” or “Go ahead, I’ll be alright.” You have a firm duty of care; until the world can see your attempted efforts have been rebuffed enough to maybe consider thinking about forgiving you.

University Grooming Etiquette Considerate Actions Business Social Etiquette Lessons

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Carry items in your left hand. You can carry a woman's heavy package, coat, or suitcase as the occasion arises. (Omit from carrying a woman's purse.) You may carry a bag strapped over your right shoulder. Avoid carrying a back pack over your lower back (and causing you to having to give it another name.)

Offer to carry anything for a person who is old, sick, or who is carrying a child. Offer your seat to any senior person in your company.

Offer your arm, or take the elbow of a companion, but only if that person needs assistance in crossing an area, at a curb, or on stairs.

Carry money in a money clip for tipping, taxies, and for mad-type emergencies.

Carry a pencil and a pen with as much metal in each as possible. Carry a fountain pen when you can. Even a non-expensive one can leave a good impression.

Carry a timepiece: a wrist watch for work, a pocket timepiece for formal and social occasions. A timepiece can be handed up from father to son. It is about the totem not the time.

Perform small services. Offer to open a window, and/or tell someone the time, when the desire for each is identified.

You might carry a cellular telephone. It is another kind of totem. It can be about the time. Each person may have need to track it. It may be about an emergency: place an “ICE #” In Case of Emergency contact number in your contacts. Use lock out codes in case you lose it. You may add to it a GPS in case you or it gets lost. It could list a REWARD# to call to have your telephone returned to you.

A cellular telephone is to be used in private as much as possible. When engaged in a conversation, step outside out of earshot of others or step inside into an empty bathroom or stairwell to enjoy your call. Thank you. Notification of an incoming call is to be by vibration. (I am going to go ahead and hold on to this dream.)

You can stay “miked.” Any wire is to be worn under your clothes, and ideally any ear piece is to be worn in only one ear, or stored behind the neck.

University Grooming Etiquette Schedule Management Business Social Etiquette Lessons

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by Harold Almon

In business, arrive “Just in time” for any appointment you intend to keep. You can get there ten minutes early, and then walk around the block.

Organize your thoughts beforehand. Send business information in advance of a meeting where practical. Be prepared to wait up to ten minutes after the time specified to be seen. Telephone whenever being late is unavoidable. Apologize for a missed appointment mischance. The apology must be accepted with as much calm as can be mustered. Suggest another appointment.

In social life, arrive "Just in time" for any event you plan to attend, whatever "On time" means, in your community. For an informal party at a private home, a business party, or for a large or small dance, arrive very close to the time specified (in descending order of importance.)

Manage your daily schedule by using a portable organizer; it can be new school, a smart telephone. It may be old school, a sleek leather system organizer full of crisp visiting and business cards with color dividers, or a spiral planner.

It could be a laptop or notebook PC for salaried workers, workers on flex time and independent business people.

A daily schedule might be managed by using a computer-generated calendar, a loose-leaf sheet calendar, or by sharing a multi-person calendar.


Things to do can be spoken in a pocketsize tape recorder or listed on a note pad and transcribed later.

Ask for one or more of these as a present and/or as a benefit to allow you to provide better service in your employment.

University Grooming Etiquette Get a Public Partner Business Social Etiquette Lessons

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Avoid attempting to master business-social etiquette alone. Get a public partner. Share social information with this person. Share the process. Get, and provide, feedback.

In business, it is not a matter of being good enough or knowing your stuff. It is a matter of how well you play, and how you will play at the next level.

Attend social events with your partner. Where possible, this person is to be of the opposite sex. After five o'clock, the public partner for a married person is to be his or her spouse. Your public partner need not be a romantic interest. He or she may be retained long after any romance is over.

Share games. If you are lucky, your partner will know how to play golf, tennis, racket ball, and cards. He or she will have been to a museum, theater, opera, on a cruise, or on an away trip, at least once.

Share parties. If luckier still, your partner will know how to dine: attend a business social party, share social dining etiquette polished table manners lessons for college and university students. Attend dinners sponsored by organizations, practice dining skills and rehearse business dining etiquette. A prerequisite to this know how to engage in table talk, not drink or talk too much, and know how to dance.

Learn, and agree on, the rules of social behavior. Be trustworthy.

Give back, volunteer. Join a committee. Accept an appointment to a board. Join an association. Take an academic class. It is in one of these environments a partner of choice will be most evident doing social polishing: making mistakes where it counts the least, practicing social graces, and being firm and considerate.

Your social partner will be aware that there is another level to life, and another side to moving forward. Say thank you often. Practice presentations on each other. Share heroes and spotlights.

A Promotional Partner

Get a promotional partner: someone with whom you seek the same target market but with whom you are not in direct competition.

Share precious resources with this person.

Pool advertising budgets.

Share advertising spots.

Swap mailing lists.

Share display space.

Sell the experience.

Insert promotional advertising items.

Bundle products and services.

Co-sponsor events.

Share public exposure.

Share literature in racks in waiting areas.

Each can be an ideal solution to maximizing advertising dollars.

A Note to Vote Male Care Matters Professional & University Etiquette

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by Harold Almon baesoe.com
Be at Ease School of Etiquette Austin

“I pledge allegiance to the flag…, and to the Republic for which it stands.” Participate in the running of your democratic republic. It is essential.

Representatives of a republic are elected by the majority of people who vote, along with the people who did not vote. Each man or woman who can vote, and then does not, casts a vote along with the majority of the people who elected a representative. Unless an extreme extenuating circumstance prohibits you, be an active part of the majority. The only choices are to participate or to withdraw.

Get a politician's attention, register. Participate in the election process, vote. The only sense in having a dream is so you can support each facet of it.

Imagine what could be done if eight and a half million people had the right to vote, and then did.

voting is ____ power, you fill it in.

Have fun with your participation. Enjoy the results of your election.  Thanks everyone.

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University Grooming Etiquette Business Social Etiquette

Men's Business Etiquette 

Professional  and Graduate
University Grooming Etiquette

Traditions Governing

Social Behavior

Cool Rules to Know

An At Ease Press Guide

A Be at Ease School of Etiquette Course Guide

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Text by

Harold Almon

Published by

At Ease Press baesoe.com

All rights reserved including the right to reproduce this book, or parts thereof, in any form, except for the inclusion of brief quotations in a review.

ISBN 978-0-917921-12-4

Copyright (c) 2016

Printed in the United States of America

Text by

Harold Almon

Foreword

Business Social Etiquette Lessons for College and University Students is a book about traditions governing everyday business social behavior - cool rules to know.

“Do not hate the player or the game.

Hate (having the talent, and)

Not knowing the rules.”

Those who have talent and execute the rules best wins.

Etiquette: considerations that delay the inevitability of war and license whereby someone may sue for peace.

Traditions

Before you agree to stay, there are rules about tradition: how you get approval that someone really meant to tell you. There are things you want to remember, and enjoy, and games you want to know how to play.

In home training, there were comments made to you from someone like me: “Why can not you be more like Johnny?” There were tests, and gold stars. There was allowance and permission. There was being grounded and there were other forms of adult imposed punishment. And there was the knowledge that when you got a car, home, or a business, of your very own, you could run each - anyway you wanted. Gold stars were given based on how well you could test. Performance was rated not based on "Hard work," but on "Good work,” how well a job is thought to have been done: approval.

In business, (in the place you are now,) no one makes comments anymore, but they still speak fondly of Johnny. There are still gold stars, given based on tests. There is still performance and approval. There is unhired, and there are still other forms of adult imposed punishment. If you are lucky, someone will tell you about consideration, that when you get “one” of your very own, playing by the rules - is no less a requirement. Staying is based on approval and personality: how well you play.

University Etiquette Notes on Handshaking - Men's Etiquette

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In business, a handshake is used to respond to an introduction. It can be used as a sign of acceptance, of a person’s pledge to keep a given word, or as a way to say, “Hello,” or “Thank you.” Be ready to shake hands when someone comes into an office from the outside, and when being introduced to strangers. (Avoid reaching across a table to shake hands, where possible.) Be prepared to shake hands at the ends of meetings, when saying goodbye for the first time, and when leaving a gathering.

A senior person is to be allowed to bow, or to smile, instead of offering to shake hands. A junior person is to follow suit, but if the junior person offers a hand, the senior person is to give his or her hand to that person. Handshaking is to be accomplished right thumb-web to right thumb-web. You can press the space between the web and the index finger. Do this with warmth and with reserved strength. Look into the face of the person whose hand has been received. Gently pump the hand up and down two to three times. Hold it for no more than two to three seconds.

Formally, a man is to bow as he shakes hands. Informally a hand offered may be clasped with two hands. A hand may be clasped, and part of a junior person’s arm may be grasped. In some circles, a hug may be performed in lieu of, or in conjunction with, a handshake. Socially, a woman may shake a hand, (knuckle to knuckle) and then let go. Be aware of this. Shake her hand more than she shakes backs. Always be mindful of rings.

More notes are available.

University Etiquette When to Get Up Business Social Etiquette

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In a business, a person is to get up to be introduced, and at the conclusion of a meeting. A man is to stand whenever a senior person, visitor, or a woman enters a room. This action is normally omitted in regards to an immediate supervisor, co-worker, or when you are ill, or old. A receptionist or a secretary is usually not expected to rise to greet each caller, but may do so as a mark of honor or friendship. Remain standing as long as a senior person does, or until you are specifically asked to do otherwise. Remain standing as long as any man or peer who is talking remains standing. A more senior person can avoid getting up to greet a job applicant for a non-executive position. This person may rise for a junior person at a first interview, and at a last interview when an employee is leaving an organization. Stand, if a woman comes to, or is brought to, your desk or table. Stand as long as any woman near is standing (even when asked to do otherwise). Stand to answer any woman who addresses a remark. Stand the entire time anyone in your party is engaged in conversation with a woman at your table, no matter how long. You can even eat standing. (You may omit standing, when a woman who is working in public comes to your table, unless she is also a close friend.) In a private home, get up every time a woman enters a room. Remain standing as long as any woman near does, or until specifically asked to do otherwise. When there are more than twelve guests in the room, rise only when a woman joins your group.

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