Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Being Excruciatingly Fork and Glass Literate Business Dinner Etiquette Professional & Graduate University Etiquette Business Dining 101 pg . 74

Outclass the Competition
by Harold Almon baesoe.com
Be at Ease School of Etiquette Austin

It is my wish to assist you in being excruciatingly considerate and fork literate.

In current use there are six forks.  You know them as this:      1. Oyster cocktail  2. Appetizer 3. Fish w/ a notched left tine 4. Meat/ Main Course/Place/Dinner 5. Salad   6. Dessert 

Someone will tell you about an olive, pickle, butter, and an ice cream fork, so there are at least ten. But if you do not already have them, chances are if you see them; they cannot be obtained, and if they could be, very few would know how or when to use them.

Know Table Glasses (pg. 72)

Know the name of each table glass. In current use there are five: left to right Water, Red wine, White wine, and Champagne (the fluted glass above the others).  Each is to be placed according to the size of the plate and order of the course to be used with it. A glass for Sherry has been omitted. There is no glass for salad.

 No more than four glasses of any kind are to be in any one place setting and any one time. When eating in company water is to be present as a sign of hospitality. Another glass may be in place for what you serve as wine. There is to be a two glass minimum. You can go up in glass size. It may appear niggardly if you go down.                                                                                                     
Glasses stay on the table until each guest has left the room (unless you are doing the bussing). 

Sunday, April 16, 2017

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Friday, March 24, 2017

Reasons for Taking University Business Etiquette Dinner Tonight University Etiquette Dining 101

Outclass the Competition
by Harold Almon
Be at Ease School of Etiquette Austin

Reasons for taking a class in University Dining Etiquette, because you can; you have a paid, or will pay, for the cost of the food; the way you eat reflects on you and the company you represent.

When asked why attend University  Business Etiquette Dinner Tonight, an Austin Food Tour; the answer then… as a friend, link "Manners to Etiquette" Outclass the Competition.

Confidence and enthusiasm will not stop you from eating badly, etiquette and practice can.

I almost resist adding this, not wishing to offend: remember, Pretty Woman? Table manners: "Rules of etiquette used while eating," and practice go with that jewelry. Graduates, the same go with that pay check. They make you better company, and allow you to rise in the air in the arena you have elected to enter.

Spend life Book Smart Gym Fit and Fork Literate. Name each Course for Six Forks.

Each of us lives on a given tier. You do not have to wait to the get to the next tier to prepare. Social skills are presents to a community.

Education and sophistication are our intellectual and social presents to a community. Avoid showing up "One hand just a long as the other, (without anything to offer.) Education is a social passport. A transcript is a ticket to where you get to sit. Etiquette is a key to access: how (you fit and how) long you get to stay.

Education without sophistication leads to isolation. There is a social requirement to academic refinement. Etiquette is a key to access.

Education and sophistication are the air in which we rise. Each tier has a required skill set. Fail to prepare and you will rise in a funnel.

A doctorate without etiquette is an awkward fit, is inadequate. Even you would not want to be around you - if you knew. And now you do- No fear. You can take a class or two.

You are one great marketing representative, and poised sure will look good on you.

You can go back then and engine search each subject title. Business Dinner Etiquette , lessons continue.

Thursday, January 5, 2017

Eti - Q Test Casual and Fine Dining Etiquette University Etiquette Dining 101 & 102

Outclass the Competition
by Harold Almon  baesoe.com
Be at Ease School of Etiquette Austin                                                

What they say, "Everyone eats this way."  Ok then,  link manners to etiquette, outclass the competition. Two pre-steps: RSVP    Accept the ‘kind’ invitation, and   identify meal restrictions.   Note the dress request.  In addition to the universal rule for eating in company, "_(Eat Something)  after you leave home.” Get coupons and get directions.

Because the more you climb the corporate ladder the more dining protocols matter; there comes a time to transcend coffee shop habits and dining hall ways, and to display rules of etiquette for business dining. It is a ritual at which more than eating is done. On the way to the top there are stations and lines at which to stop.

Station 1. The Meeting Line

1.       Be punctual, ________________, whatever this means in your community.      
(Occasionally show up _____________.)

Station 2. Name Badge Placement

2. Know where to wear that name badge__________________. Get a name badge holder.

Station 3. Something to Drink

3.       Know how to respond to an offer of an alcoholic drink. During daylight, order a___________ over a “Non-Alcoholic one.” It is just easier to say. A juice can be a substitute for an alcoholic drink. Know “What can I get you,” and what it will cost.   Know what to do with that cocktail napkin______________.  

4.     Learn to hold a glass by ________.  Lift the glass with the ____________.  

 Avoid the crane; drink without poking someone in the eye; keep your elbows and arms down close to your sides while taking a drink from a glass. When not drinking, keep your ________ warm, dry, and free. Appear to be drinking less than the host, hostess, or person who is picking up the tap. At an evening event, make any drink Virgin (especially after your first.) (And ______________ before you come to or stay at the table.)  

5 .       Learn to survive a business party: hold a napkin, glass, and plate in ________hand functionally. 

6.       Mock tail Introductions Do introductions correctly______________________.

7.       Notes on Handshaking Shake hands the right way_______________________.  

8.       Mingle. Be good company. When someone gives you a business card, know what to do with it and _________________. You can say, “I am temporarily out.   I can email you my resume or contact information."  

Station 4. The Line to the Table

9.       Learn who should get the first seat of honor at a table_____________. Review the  Plan de table.

10.     Table Talk.    Do table introductions. Prepare for conversation. Talk about things other than work (unless it is the purpose for the meal). Talk, some ________________ can still be in your mouth. In business, keep the people at your table company. (Remember, for some, your conversation is the entertainment.)

At a family dinner, know_____________ acceptable to your host’s culture Someone may say, would you care to say a prayer?

Know what to do when someone stops to visit you at table_______________.

Know how to interact with dining staff.

11.     Know the current USA menu number and order of courses__________________. Know the rules of Menus and formatting Menu Cards________________. Learn what to do after reading that reusable menu. Notes to self, if a menu in not Prix Fixe, order something you know how to eat.

12.     Rules for Setting a Place Setting with Spoons: a napkin is to be placed center a place setting in ____________________. In a home, the spoon for coffee can be omitted from a place setting.

Maintain your cover: (____________________,) or establish one. A cover is to be free of ________.  
13.     Know when is a water glass to be at a table. Look for drinks to be served from the _______ (refreshing.)

14.     Setting an Advanced Formal Place Setting Know Rules for Using Flatware: the________________________ are omitted.  Know which fork to use and when and how: name six.

15.     When seated at a table, know when is a napkin to be picked up and placed in your lap. 

16. Notes to Self (Sit up straight. ________________)   (Avoid duck and chuck.) 

17.     Rules for Bread and Butter      Avoid bread until you receive________________________; remember bread is not a first course   Avoid leaving ___________  in bread that you are eating. 

18.      Using Glasses at Table  Know how many glasses can be at table ___________ and how many refills of water can you get__________. 

Station 5.  The Line to the Food

19.     Filling a plate take small amounts of food. (Practice eating in courses ______________.) Look for food to be served from the __________ (leaving) side.  Avoid taking too little, or too much, or more in visual calories than those dining around you. Try a little of everything unless restricted by religion, health, or culture.  

20.     Take a _________ often.  You can rest your elbows on the table - in between courses. (Continental style, you can talk with a knife and fork in your hands. Keep them low.) Place your implements in __________________ for the style in which you are eating, anytime you want.

21.     Eat each meal in an accepted style________________________________.

 Cut items, one or two pieces at a time.  (Yes, you may eat only one thing at a time.)  Sit up straight. Take small amounts of food.  Close your mouth around the edge of any fork placed in it. Chew each portion with your mouth closed, and saver each bite. Taste buds live and digestion begins there, and not the stomach – yes that’s right.  Avoid chewing with ___________________. "It is disturbing and annoying.”  Avoid eating too little, too much, or too fast, or acting as if the meal is to be your last. Make as little noise as possible. Keep your hands on the table. Pace yourself. Eat each course in such a manner as to finish it along with _______________________.  When at a loss as to how to eat a particular dish, you can ask." The lesson most likely will begin ___________. In public, leave a little something of each course on your plate. 

22.     Avoid adding salt or pepper to food prior to tasting it.  When salt is requested, ensure ____________________.

23.      When cutting meat, slice with__________, and cut across _______, or fillet it. Avoid seconds in the same place, or in any home not your own.  

24.     Know of what an after dinner salad is to consist____________________.                                  

25  Correcting the table is done before serving dessert. When it is time, “Take a break.”  Before temporarily leaving the table place flatware in the ________________________ for the style in which you are eating; get up; place your napkin _________________.

Know what to do when someone visits your table.  Between the salad course and dessert, visit Station Six: the bathroom. Make Checks and repairs. Know the answer to the question, “Where can I wash my hands.”  

25.    Know how to eat dessert in the Continental Style.    

Station 7. When it’s time, sing the company song.  When it is time, dance. Let the host pay (and tip) where required. OK back to class.

Suggest after meal entertainment: order in store, suggests a coffee spot, shopping,  dining at another location, dancing, an cultural exhibition, or when to go home.

26.  Before permanently leaving a table, place flatware in the finished position for the style in which you are eating. Leave each course plate _____________________ until it is removed by a waitperson or replaced by the next plate. Look for food to be removed from the  retrieving side. Avoid helping: unless asked, even when you use to wait tables. At a dinner is not the place to display this trait.    

Place your napkin in a mock fold to the (leaving) side of your place setting, (again napkin on the side.)   A napkin is to be crisp at the end. Avoid putting any napkin on your used plate or in any glass. Avoid stacking plates or making “trash”  plates.  Get up and push in your chair until it is six inches away from the edge of the table. Take a picture of your plate. Just kidding, I will do that for you.

Remember things to take-away:  Name  Badge,  Name Place Cards,  Singed Menu Cards,  Pens,  Party Favors,  Program, Pictures,  Engraved gift,  Contacts, and personal effects.  (No doggie bags.) Some places will let you order a new order to go.

Station 8

27.  Say Thank You, then,_________________________. Get a Fountain pen Correspondence cards, Envelops & Stamps. Place your return address on the back.

Remember reciprocity, where required is to be in-kind. Read and research as much as possible about the culture in which you will be the host.

 Watch each act of eating with an open mind, eye, and heart. Practice diligently. While eating in company, there are things to learn and do. – University Business Dinner Etiquette Tonight This is the short course  For  more answers read the blog, the book, or bring this test to class. N/A items are really other things to do.
I know you want - Manners in a minute – done – but just some. Math takes months, but Manners to Etiquette takes practice that’s the rest of life’s test. 

-Fast Food Etiquette it is the same except for who is responsible for _________________________  

Professional & University Dining Eti - Q Test Things to Learn and Do     Manners to Etiquette Outclass the Competition Etiquette for Professionals and Graduate Students. Why the test? Why:  to combat lack of information, orientation, education, sophistication, dummy down marketing, cultural exclusion, and to link manners to etiquette and outclass the competition

Where they eat: Camps, Cafeterias, Coffee Shops, and Dining Facilities with Buffet and Cafeteria Style Dining Service, and in Fast Food restaurants.

How they drink: from a paper glass,  with a lid under a roof,  held near the top: essentially from a Sippy cup (without a handle,) from a cup without using a handle, from a glass with a straw-indoors, from a bottle, without a straw, and with their elbow out. 

What they currently eat:  pre-cut food - from a box, a container, out of a bag  or a wrapper, with their hands.

How they eat:  with a lack of consideration or knowledge of any specific style, and with great ignorance of how to use a fork and knife, how maintain a cover: a place setting for one,   Dining is a dance, to look good doing it, you have to learn the steps and then practice.

Thursday, December 15, 2016

Men's Personal Grooming University Etiquette Sex and Men's Business Etiquette to Know Professional and Graduate University Etiquette Men's Grooming Male Care Matters Things Expected from the Male Half

Men's Personal Grooming and
Men's Business Etiquette to Know
Professional and Graduate
University Etiquette
Men's Grooming

An At Ease Press Etiquette Guide
A Be at Ease School of Etiquette Course Guide


Text by
Harold Almon

Published by
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All rights reserved including the right to reproduce this book, or parts thereof, in any form, except for the inclusion of brief quotations in a review.

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Copyright (c) 2016
Harold Almon

Printed in the United States of America


To Josh, and to each student/son who wanted to know what could be expected from him publicly, my humble attempt at a map.

To Proofreaders and reviewers;
Thank you for inserting arrows where needed, dotting "i" s, where required, and adding directions and signs to assist sons in climbing mountains, standing on their own, and finding their way home.

Men's Personal Grooming and Men's Business Etiquette  to Know is a compilation of three life skills etiquette guides on male development: Male Personal Grooming, University Etiquette Sex, and Men's Business Etiquette to Know:  things (a male needs) to do, things of which to be mindful, and cool rules to know; things someone will tell a graduate student son.

“Do not hate the player or the game. Hate (having the talent, and) not knowing the rules.”

Link “Manners to Etiquette” – outclass the competition. Manners: things you know to do, must be married to etiquette: the rules to go with them, for there to be a good result; what you approve of must be married with the set of rules for the court you are in or for the court at the level to which you wish to ascend. He who has talent and follows the rules best wins.

Friday, September 9, 2016

Job Interview Dining Etiquette USA Menu – Number of Courses Professional and Graduate University Etiquette Dining 103

Outclass the Competition
by Harold Almon
Be at Ease School of Etiquette Austin


The standard United States of America menu, no matter how formal, consists of no more than five (four) courses. You can check with the White House. Practice eating in courses over eating in piles.

1. The first course could be an appetizer. It might precede or substitute as a first course. As a rule the first course is to be soup. It can be fruit-juice or melon. The first course can be omitted. Avoid serving rolls or sliced bread and butter or Olive oil as an intended first course.

2. The second course can be a fish, with maybe a potato item, or at lunch, it may be an egg dish. This course could be omitted.

3. The third or main course (sometimes called the entrée in restaurants) is to be a roasted meat (a Roti,) a fowl, or a vegetable item, and two vegetable side items, (or informally one side item may be a starch item.) At least one non-meat main course item is to be included in each menu offered.

4. The fourth course might be a green salad with cheese. * Salad served before a main course stems from what I call a Mickey D’s mentality: greet guest within 30 seconds, give each something to drink within three minutes, and something to eat within seven.

C’est tres gourmet - not really. The drink before you eat is an aperitif and something to eat before a main course can be a consommé. The purpose of a salad is to push the main course away. This course may be served in lieu of a third course. It may be omitted in favor of dessert.

5. The fifth or last course is to be dessert. Coffee can be served with dessert, after it, or omitted entirely.

Where allowed and appropriate, to each dessert you can add or have added cookies bought during a fund raiser such as chocolate cookies with pink M & Ms in them made and purchased in support of the cure for breast cancer (Thanks Melissa.)

You may add a few chocolate covered mint cookies, or chocolate stripped coconut cookies, acquired in support of a Scout or as part of Giving Back.

What is served in each course may change with personal preference and pallet of each Chef. In the United States of America this is the main course frame.

6. A trend has developed of omitting the first and second course. Most meals consist of a fourth and a third course: a salad and a main course. The latter practice is seen often in commercial dining rooms. There a dessert is seen and had only by the very lucky.

If you are going to share a meal with someone, eat in courses over eating in piles. At minimum, plan on a two-part lunch: a first course and a main course, or a main course and a dessert. It takes a little extra time, allows for longer conversation, and builds in great memories.

Plan on a three-course dinner: a first course, main course, and a dessert. At a social meal, you can offer to share a dessert. At a business social meal, omit doing this.

Review the menu at each place to which you will take someone. And if you wish, know the signature dish not to be missed. If you are invited to share a meal with someone, eat a little something before you leave home.

Ah yes, and learn the most favorable parking instructions. See if the parking pass for your guest can be validated by the restaurant. The discount for the special of the day can be overshadowed by the cost of the valet.

Tuesday, August 2, 2016

Dare to Live - Suicide Prevention Day Sunday Sep 10 2017 Male Care Matters

Dare to Live  Surviving the Parent Company - Getting a Desired Change by Harold Almon baesoe.com
Be at Ease School of Etiquette Austin

Always dare to live. Suicide cannot be justified. It is your job to live. Vote, revolt, evolve, and even do jail time. See the world for what it could be, and join with others to do something about it. People will tell you that you cannot win, until you do. People have said the same thing to each person who has won any goal, or evolution (something won sure and slow.) Dare to live, and to strive.

For every life taken away there is one less person to vote, one less person to help in the evolution, one less person who could learn something in a penitentiary, and one less person to help mankind. With each suicide, there is one less person, which the world was promised, who would do something about the state the world is in.

For every suicide, someone misses an opportunity to say, "Yes I Can." Each keeps a person from learning from an experience. It keeps the Almighty and someone else from hearing you say, "Here is my better work," or simply, "I'm sorry." Each keeps one other person from saying, "Well done," or "I know you are sorry," and "You're forgiven." These are things you can win.

People will tell you that you cannot break even. Say, "Yes I Can." Ask for peace, but with power. Take power, but only with responsibility. Ensure your freedom, and see that no one else is more free.

Freedom must be demanded in living, as birth is demanded by life. Each must exist. Each must be waited for. Each may have to be taken. Each will come. When you do break even, people will congratulate you.

In daring to live, your life touches another life. You touch people in rows and in generations. When a life is voluntarily extinguished, all the people, who were to have been touched by it, are denied. Once there is a suicide, all the people who were to have been born are murdered. It is for the people in the rows that need to be touched, and in the generations that wait to be born, you should dare to live.

People will tell you that you cannot even quit the game. All too soon you will learn, "I Can." Learn that suicide is not an option. To quit a game, just say, "I need a break." Do this when you are hurt or remotely tired. Always elect to play again. The only way the world can get any better is by each man or woman living in it. Know this. Dare to live.

When your body has had enough, you will be allowed a recess, or to go crazy, if only for a while. Short of that, you will be allowed to take refuge, to rest, to leave, and to go on vacation. You will learn how to survive in your environment. Your body will teach you how to enjoy life. In spite of diversity, dare to live.

Others had a job to do, to prepare a place for you. Others dared to live so that you might; others dared to wait, to be proud of you. They were there to pick you up when you fell, to look where you landed each time you jumped, and to be ready to take you back, until you were really ready to leave. The act of suicide can not be understood. You are not to say to the Almighty or to each person who lived for the good each tried to do for you, "No, thank you." Spend your life daring to live. And with yourself, dare to be gentle.

Thursday, July 28, 2016

Pizza Etiquette Eat Like Someone is Watching Outclass the Competition

Outclass the Competition
by Harold Almon
Be at Ease School of Etiquette Austin

Pizza can be served as a main course on a serving dish. Pizza is to be served with  sides: soup,    wings, crudités, hummus, salad, or fruit, and a cookie or ice cream.

In public, avoid eating pizza directly from a box. Pizza is not to be sopped with paper napkins to drain off the oils, (something I have seen,) and this is not a request normally asked for from a kitchen.

Under a roof, pizza is to be eaten from a plate placed center each place setting, from an established cover: with a plate, fork, and a knife; optionally, a glass is to be placed above the knife space to the right of the plate space, and  with a napkin placed on the lap.

Pizza can be eaten with a knife and fork. This is normally reserved for a deep dish pie, or one with a running sauce. Even then it is a personal choice.

Pizza may be placed on a plate and eaten with the fingers. The sides may be bent upwards and the wedge taken to the mouth and pizza eaten one bite at a time.

Pizza may be pre-cut into squares and used as a cocktail food, held on a plate, with it and a napkin and drink in one hand, as practice for a real cocktail party.

Soup as a First Course Casual and Fine Dining Etiquette University Etiquette Dining 103

Outclass the Competition
by Harold Almon
Be at Ease School of Etiquette Austin

Soup can be served as a first course. Soup in a bowl or cup is to be served on an underlying plate. Soup can be served in a soup plate with or without being placed on an underlying plate. The underlying plate may be set atop a show or charger plate.

1. Soup is to be eaten as follows, “As the ship goes out to sea I spoon my soup away from me.” The spoon is to be balanced, loaded, locked, and then lifted to the mouth and the soup taken in from side of it. Avoid blowing soup, (same as for coffee.) Soup that is too hot can be stirred to be cooled. It may be allowed to stand until it is palatable. The bowl or plate may be tipped away from you and a spoon used to get the last of any item in it. You could avoid doing this. Soup served in a cup can be eaten by using a spoon or by picking up the cup by the handle(s) and drinking the item in it in small silent sips (pours.)

2. Soup can be served with croutons or oyster cocktail crackers. Each may be eaten by placing them in the vessel a few at a time and eating them with the soup. Saltine crackers are to be eaten separately from the soup. These crackers can be crumbled into chowder, but this is to be done only at a very informal meal.

3. Soup may be served with a relish tray. Items on it are considered finger foods, and are to be picked up with them. Each person can take up to two of each item and place them on a bread and butter plate.

4. Relish tray items may be placed on the edge of an underlying plate in the absence of a bread and butter plate. Olive pits could be taken out of the mouth with the thumb and the index finger and placed on the left edge of the plate.

5. The rest position for the spoon is handle in the four o’clock position. The finished position for a spoon on a plate is at four o’clock. The finished position for a spoon served with a bowl or cup is on the right side of the underlying plate.

6. Sherry may be served with a soup course. A sherry glass is to be set in formation to the right of the last wine glass. It can be filled half- full, without being lifted from the table. The glass is to be held by the stem in the right hand when drinking from it. It is to be set back in the position for it when the drink is rested or finished. Sherry could be omitted.

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