School of Etiquette Dining and Business Etiquette for College & University Students

Your Five Digit Zip Code One of Four Errors on Your Business Card Business Card Etiquette for College and University Students 512 821 2699

2012-01-28T20:08:00.002-06:00

By Harold Almon baesoe.com

Your contact may have gotten your five digit zip code from your business card. It is one of the four errors on it. Note: The return address on a business card is to be in upper and lower case numbers and letters. However, if your business card has an address with a five digit zip code, go to usps.com Look up a Zip Code and add the other four numbers to it. If it has a zip+4, there are still four errors on your business card, just now there is one less than before. Either way, trust me about the other three. Learn the impact. Practice Business Card Etiquette for College and Univerity Students.

Advantage of the Zip Code + 4 Number - Business Card Etiquette for College and University Students

2012-01-28T17:27:00.003-06:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com

A MAIL TO POSTAL ADDRESS when placed on a label or envelope is to contain all capital letters, no punctuation, and a zip code + 4 number. This is a Post Office dream and request.

HAROLD ALMON                      ATTENTION LINE (ATTN OPTIONAL)\
BAESOE DI   (Director)                        OFFICE ADDRESS) (OPTIONAL)
BE AT EASE                                                                 IDENTIFICATION NAME
SCHOOL OF ETIQUETTE                                                    DEFINITION LINE
XXX W BEN WHITE BLVD SUITE 214                  STREET ADDRESS
P O BOX 214                                                                            MAIL TO ADDRESS
AUSTIN TX 78704 7197                                      CITY STATE CODE ZIP + 4 NUMBER

The advantage of providing the "Zip code+4" number: it is scanned for and provides for the best use of technology and promotes faster, more accurate, reliable, and consistent mail service for correspondence and billing. Using the zip code + 4 number, enables equipment to sort mail to a specific carrier, side of street, or site, qualifies a person to take advantage of discount compensation for volume mailing; it allows for up to date looking business cards and writing paper, and it provides contacts with up to date information for inclusion into their data systems. And if it is never enforced it is still the law.

An Etiquette Education

2012-01-28T17:16:00.001-06:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com
"Seek knowledge. Go to college. Stay there until you are through. If they can make penicillin out of mold, that’s true," they will make a passport for you to be you. A’s are pretty to see. C’s equal a degree.

Education is a social passport. It can allow you entry into new country. Your transcript may be your ticket. It could determine where you get to sit. Add a class in etiquette; it might be your key to access: how you fit, what you get to see, and how long you get to stay.

Education without sophistication leads to isolation. There is a social requirement to academic refinement. Get your degree. It is required for long-term stability in an upwardly mobile society. It provides a socially acceptable reason to hang out away from home. It can have little to do with the job that you do. Know your education level. For the rest of your life someone will ask.

Have a major. It can be that your major will support you. It may just be your passport. Your major will allow someone to give you credit, or worse to give you a loan. It can be used to let you take a test for a job, and/or to pay you more for the time you trade for money. “To get a good job, get a good education, (in fields which are hiring.)” Get the certification. Few people will ask you about your GPA or your degree, after you do.

You may have many degrees, as long as one is not a doctorate. Avoid getting a PhD unless your major is a “Hard” science, (here a Masters is the Bobbie prize,) or unless you are willing to be self-employed, to teach, and/or to live off grants or insurance money, and then only if you are lucky. When you get older, go back and get it. It is a nice passport. It is nice to have someone call you doctor. Pick up a class in etiquette. A doctorate without etiquette is an awkward fit, is inadequate. Even you would not want to be around you - if you knew. And now you do. No fear. Add a course (more than one class) in etiquette. Poise is going to look good on you.

In business, you will learn that a degree is only a license to allow someone to let you do what you were already good enough to do, pay you for it, promote you, and to maintain limited liability. An advanced degree is a license to allow you to be a full director in your field, even when the two are non-related. Even from this you will retire.

Have a minor. It is your minor that will give you your freedom. Place in it your passion, your work, and your research. Remember what it was that was important to you, shared with you, and taught to you. While you are busy making money, practice doing the thing(s) that will make you free. If and when your minor gets to be your major you have captured the brass ring.

Follow the work of your minor. Then teach it. Those who can teach do. It is an obligation. Those who cannot teach, teach teachers. What does it matter as long as the word gets out? When you do get to the table, it will be as an equal.

You can not inherit or bequeath a degree. You can get one or to the same place and do the same thing with a good work summary in a field you have pioneered or explored intently and extensively. It takes a lot longer.

Get your degree. You can start with CLEP tests, and with life experience credits. How long can you stay dumb or without one? Until you learn and pass tests. Then who can take knowledge (or your degree) from you? Remember this about education, it is a social passport, even when you are just going home. Etiquette is the rules for the role: how to dress for the trip.

Mens Etiquette for Valentines Day 2012 - V Day is on Tuesday

2012-01-28T15:26:00.001-06:00

By Harold Almon baesoe.com

Valentines Day is on Tuesday. Yes, you still have to go to work; take the cell; call someone. There can be hugs and kisses, X's and O's, but actually what someone is looking to see is roses and chocolates. It can be a single red rose, she wakes up to, she will tell them so, and chocolates, enough to share with the folks at the office.

You could wake up early, and share Breakfast in bed. The menu: Orange Juice with or without something sparkling, in it, Croissants and Cream Cheese and fruit with berries and Crème, – on a tray with a place mat. Red silly. Oh yes and coffee, French Vanilla. – and chocolate chips. A menu card may list the courses for her. A favorite flower might go in a bud vase or to be lain across the tray.

Flowers are to be sent to her office or home, near to someone to whom she is going to boast to about you. There is to be a card that on the outside says, “From Your Valentine:” or “For my Valentine.” On the inside it can say, “ I Honor, Appreciate, Thank, Crave, and Love You. - Circle the words at will. I do." If you want someone new to be your Valentine your card might read, “If I declare war on you, would that help you capture me?” The card is to go inside an envelope: front facing to the back.

At the door – on the return, there might be Balloons with a note that says, “Love lives within.” A bubble bath: if she never takes it. A movie rental: This night: A Star is Born. A note could say, “You should be sleepy. I have loved you all day while you were away.” There is to be time to take that walk ‘cause you promised, to watch a sunset, and a promise to love her until the earth stops spinning and the sun no longer returns. There is to be dinner, ordered in (the restaurant will need the seats, or a rest from Friday and Saturday.) It can be a picnic on the floor in front of the TV: I would say fireplace,- and maybe, but this too is a movie rental night. The are to be Candles: Candle wicks are to be pre-lit, put out, and then ready to be lit again, and Karats when you can afford it. "A man is judged by the size of the jewelry on his woman’s hand." She has three months salary on it." I know, but that was a long time ago. Time for something new. For dinner you will need another place setting and another menu card (Sign this one at the end of the night.) For now, establish a cover: a place setting for one. Then make another. – Next to her place setting you may place a piece of chocolate or a chocolate rose (from a dollar store.) For food: Your caterer can be a local restaurant or grocery store. It can be a Big Mac- or a heart shaped pizza - something… Served on a plate. Cut in half. There is to be something to drink with that. Blanc de Blanc, or it can be "Virgin." There is to be dessert: Ice cream or a Milk shake with White Chocolate & Raspberries, in a glass & Coffee, in a cup: & Cherry almond Biscotti. You get my drift.

And there is to be sleep with rose petals placed inside a pillow, so that when laundry is done, the day is remembered. There is to be a mint or something with cinnamon in it - what’s next goes best without bad breath…There is to be a gift: something stuffed or that can be kept forever, and a card that could read, “You should sleep well tonight. I have loved you all day long." "Again – my friend." You can start to do part or all of the above on any random Tuesday. Hurry, it is almost Valentines morning.

For My Valentine
You should know
I would defy law, and risk death
for the privilege of marrying you again.
Happy Valentines Day

Did I tell you,
I would give up war
for the opportunity
of giving you a
home and loving you

It is how the day got started, if the rumors are true.

Saying Thank You - Business and Social Hospitality Etiquette for College and University Students

2012-01-25T17:43:00.000-06:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com

At an event where you did not have to work or pay to attend say, "Thank you" verbally. Later, say thank you again with a note by hand. This is the first part of the second half of saying thank you: written acknowledgement.

A thank you note can be written on a visiting card, correspondence card, personal paper, or a small plain piece of paper. A man may write “Thank you” on the back of a correspondence card. A hand written note may be written on the front. A thank you note may be written on a business card, where appropriate. It could be written on a plain index card. A man is to avoid using any fold-over card or indented correspondence card. A preprinted thank you card is to be avoided by everyone.

The second part of the second half of “Thank you” is reciprocity, when required. For tips on reciprocity, you can review Flawless Dining Service.

Now home with you to write your Thank you notes, or at least the drafts; save a copy; do your business card reviews, and make notes in your log or journal, so that you have something to review prior to seeing the same people again. How else can you cultivate that wonderful memory and pretend that you are not keeping track? For reciprocity (even when required) a man can wait a lifetime. For a “Thank you” card he may wait for up to a year.

Correct Creative Table Setting - A Place Setting for One - A Cover - Hospitality Etiquette for College and University Students-

2012-01-25T08:00:00.000-06:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com/

A place setting for one person at a table is called a cover. It is to be fifteen by twenty four inches, set to facilitate the eating of the meal at hand: which courses will be served and when.

1. A folded napkin, six letters (C-E-N-T-E-R) is placed center a place setting in absence of a first course. A course- also six letters may be preset center a place setting. (Each could be omitted and be brought in to the table.)

2. Flatware is to be placed approximately one inch up from the edge of the table or place mat evenly spaced and in symmetry. The fork, four letters (L-E-F-T,) is placed to the left of the plate space. It can be placed tines up or tines down. A folded napkin is placed to the left of the forks when a first course is in place. It is to be untouched by the fork(s.) The place (meat) knife, five letters (R-I-G-H-T,) is placed to the right of the plate space blade facing toward the center. A place knife is to accompany a place fork for all meals except a buffet meal. It can be placed as for all other meals. It may be placed next to the fork for a buffet meal. Each spoon is to be placed to the right of the last knife bowl up or down to match the fork(s.) (The rule has always been, according to the menu, outside in – in kind.)

3. The water glass, five letters, (R-I-G-H-T) is set in place above the right tip of the knife. Yes, that is your glass (for water. Now, you can move it to the left and add another diagonally to the right of it for wine.) Next to each place setting you may place a piece of signature candy. Establish your cover.

Spoon Rules

Spoon rules: here is how they work. The little teaspoon (#3) is for coffee served in a tea cup. It can be omitted, until later. The round soup spoon (#1) is for cream soup. When a tablespoon is placed in position #1 it may be for melon, a hearty soup, or for a consommé. And a tablespoon placed as #2 is for dessert. It can be placed to the left of spoon #1. No more than three spoons (or any flatware item) are to be placed in a place setting at any time.

Business Dining Etiquette and Business Social Etiquette Camp for College and University Students in Austin (512) 821-2699

2012-01-24T11:00:00.000-06:00

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Master events such as business luncheons and formal dinners
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Polished Table Manners
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Because 1. Dining is a ritual at which more than eating is done. 2. As a rule, what you eat is up to you. How you eat is your present to the table and the view you provide those around you. The way a person eats reflects on that person and the company he or she represents. But above all that 3. When sitting at a table and sharing a meal with a friend it is wonderful to know what is being signaled and what to signal back. – Practice can be done in casual shoes.

I Have Seen You Eat Twenty Years of Fast Food
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Harold Almon baesoe.com (512) 821-2699

2012-01-03T18:27:00.000-06:00

OBJECTIVE: To provide etiquette education for college and university students on career services, business dining etiquette and business social etiquette in order to allow students to acquire social keys to advancing more at ease.

PROFESSIONAL WORK SUMMARY: Author/ Business Etiquette Instructor/ Director At Ease Press - Be at Ease School of Etiquette (AEP BaE SoE) - Austin, TX 2007-Present. Provide Career Services and Dining Etiquette training on Social and Business Hospitality, Correct (Creative) Table Setting and Seating Assignments, Flawless Dining Service, Social Dining Etiquette Polished Table Manners for College and University Students, and Business Dining Etiquette for College and University Students Climbing the Ladder.

Business Etiquette services include lessons on Resume Writing Etiquette and Work and Performance Requirements, Work Image and Exposure, and What the Pay Will Buy, Four Errors on Your Business Card, Organization Identification Protocols, and Personal File Organization: Personal Transportation, A Plan for Just in Case and Budgeting and Bill Paying, (a Wallet Review,) and AEP etiquette books, and Social Etiquette lessons (Corporate Soft Skills) on Male Dress & Image: Using Personal and Business Cards, Male Business Dress Etiquette, Business Telephone Excellence, Mid-section Management, and Mastering Your Away Trip; and on Male Care Matters: Personal Grooming Etiquett, Everyday Business Social Etiquette, Surviving the Parent Company, Male Personal Grooming and That Talk, and Getting a Desired Change.

BACKGROUND: USAF Certified Leadership and Management Instructor, Academic Instructor, OJT Administrator, Quality Assurance Evaluator, and NAF Hospitality and Food Service Supervisor. Publisher and Author, Founder At Ease Enterprises, Lompoc, CA 1987-1998, and Be at Ease School of Etiquette (BaE SoE,) San Luis Obispo, CA 1998-2006.

EDUCATION: Liberal Studies, Allen Hancock College, Santa Maria, CA conferred June 1993, Certificate: Food Service Supervisors program, Allen Hancock College, Santa Maria, CA Intern-ready June 1993, Certificate, Leadership and Management Instructor, Certificate Academic Instructor, Leadership and Management Development Center, LMDC, Maxwell AFB, AL 1976.

PROFICIENCIES: Instructing business etiquette lessons, and conducting protocol workshops on Etiquette Organizing and a "Sense of Style." As an Author proficiencies include writing comprehensive single subject etiquette guidebooks on subjects listed, and, as a public speaker, proficiencies include conducting workshops on Career Services, Dining Etiquette, Business Etiquette, and Male Dress & Image. Computer: MS Office (Excel, Word, and Power Point,) and Adobe InDesign. Type 50 WPM. Language: English: Fluent - Customs and Courtesies.

Clearance: Secret USAF MSgt (Ret.)

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2011-12-31T20:31:00.001-06:00

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Eating is not the reason for the meeting.

Master events such as business luncheons and formal dinners

Table Manners - Eti Q Test -Things to Learn and Do - Business Dining Etiquette for College and University Students

2011-12-20T09:17:00.001-06:00

By Harold Almon baesoe.com

In addition to, the universal rule for eating in company, "______________________________before leaving home;"

1. Be punctual, ___________________, whatever this means in your community. (Occasionally show up with a present.)

2. N/A Know where to wear that name badge ________________________________.

3. N/A Shake hands the right way________________________________.

4. Do introductions (correctly, __________________then _____________ or_________________.

5. N/A Mingle. Be good company. When someone gives you a business card, know what to do with it ____________________________, and what to have to give back. ____________________.

6. N/A Know how to respond to an offer of a drink, during daylight. Order _______________. It is easier to say than ________________.
7. Drink without poking someone in the eye; avoid the crane: raising your elbow to take a drink from a glass;) ________ liquid into your mouth, from your wrist. When not drinking, __________________________________. (And wash your hands before you come to or stay at the table.)
8. N/A Learn how to survive a business party: how to hold a napkin, glass, and a plate, in your ____________ , functionally
9. Learn the seat of honor: _________________________ __________________and where to stop at a table.________________________________________.

10. Maintain your cover: _________________________, or establish one.
11.N/A Know which fork to use: name six, ________________, ______________ ,____________, ___________, _______________, ____________, and when and how.
12. Know the number and order of courses ___: ______________, __________, __________, __________, __________. Learn what to do after reading that reusable menu______________________.
13. Avoid bread until ____________________________; remember bread is not a first course. Avoid leaving _________________ in bread that you are eating
14. Talk. At a family dinner, know an invocation acceptable to your host’s culture.________________________. Keep the people at your table company. (Remember, for some, your conversation is the entertainment.) Talk about things other than work (unless it is the purpose for the meal.) Use your inside voice. Some _______________ can still be in your mouth. Know what to do when someone stops to visit you at table. __________.
15. When seated at a table, place a napkin _____________ before eating or drinking anything.

16. Eat each meal in an accepted style: ______________________or ______________________. _______________ in only one direction, one ____________________ at a time. (Yes, you may eat only one thing at a time.) Avoid eating too little, too much, or too fast, or acting as if the meal is to be your last.
When at a loss as to how to eat a particular dish, ________________________________________. You can ask ___________________________________?" The lesson most likely will begin with a
smile
17. Notes to Self: Eat something before leaving home. Order something easy to eat.
18. Look for food to be served (counter-clockwise) from __________ (leaving.) At a table -- look for drinks at table to be served from ________ (refreshing.) Take small amounts of food. (Eat in ___________ over eating in piles.) Avoid taking too little, or too much, or more in visual calories than those dining around you. Try a little of everything unless restricted by religion, health, or culture.

19. (Sit up straight. _____________________________.) Close your mouth around the edge of any fork placed in it. Chew each portion __________________, with your mouth closed, and saver each bite. Taste buds live and digestion begins __________________ not the stomach – yes that’s right. Make as ____________________ as possible.
20. Pace yourself. Eat each course in such a manner as to finish it__________________________ Take __________________________ often. Rest the __________________ on the edge of the table. You can rest your elbows on the table __________________. (Continentally, you can talk with a knife and fork in your hands. ____________________.) Place your implements in ___________________ for the style in which you are eating, knife blade facing____________________________________ anytime you want, and ______________________.
21. In public, ___________________ of each course on your plate and of each drink in each glass. Leave each course plate _____________until it is removed by a waitperson or replaced by the next plate. Look for food to be removed from _____________. (retrieving.) (Avoid helping: passing your plate, unless asked, even when you use to wait tables. At dinner is not the place to display this trait.) Know what to do when someone visits your table_______. Between courses, _________________. Before temporarily leaving the table place flatware in __
___________________for the style in which you are eating; blade facing _____________________. Get up; place your napkin ____________. When its time, sing the company song______________. When it is time, dance. Let the host pay (and tip) where required. OK back to class.
22. Avoid adding salt or pepper to food, unless it is to ________, _________, _________, ___________, or ______________. When salt is requested, ensure _________________________ Avoid ________________.

23. At table finishes. Before permanently leaving a table, place flatware in ____________________ for the style in which you are eating.

24. Place your napkin in a mock fold to the___________ (leaving) side of your place setting, (again napkin on the side.) Avoid putting any napkin on your used plate or in any glass. Avoid staking plates or making plates “trash.” Get up and push in your chair until it is six inches away from the edge of the table.

25. Say thank you. Then, say thanks again later by note. Use ________________________________ or (for a woman)_______________ Avoid ___________________. Remember reciprocity, where required. Read and research as much as possible the culture in which you ___________________. Watch each act of eating with an open mind, eye, and heart. Practice diligently. While eating in company, there are things to learn and do. – This is the short course.

I know Math took months, but you want - Manners in a minute - done. Manners to Etiquette - that's the rest of lif'e's test.

Notes to Self Acquire Polished Table Manners - Social Dining Etiquette for College and University Students

2011-12-15T20:33:00.002-06:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com

In home training, the quantity of food you eat will endear you to someone. In social life, it is the style in which you eat that will do the same thing.
“Eat a little something before leaving home.” Order something easy to eat. At home, practice eating chicken with a knife and fork. Under a roof, it is the etiquette. Even when alone, avoid wearing headphones, a hat, or a backpack at table. At a public event you can have a name badge to make yourself known. When you are an escort it may read, “Ask me about… an organization, product, company, or specialty.”
Establish and maintain your place setting or cover. Leave the centerpiece alone. Avoid eating with personal items, technology, or books in your cover or eating with technology in one hand and food or drink in the other. These items can be set at table after you finish your meal.
Look for food to be served (counter clockwise) from the left (leaving side) of the place setting. Pass to the right where applicable. Say, “May I” “Please” “Thank you” and “Welcome,” as appropriate.
Eat in an established style; learn how. Learn the art of cutting meat; avoid sawing dead cooked meat.
Avoid the dunk: ducking your head down to meet your food. Sit up straight. Bring food to you. Monitor ingestion: time the opening of your mouth to just coincide with the arrival of an implement to your month.
Close your mouth around the edge of any implement placed in it. Avoid the bump: a visible lump of food in your cheek. Chew each portion twenty-four times. Taste buds live and digestion begins in the mouth. Around chew seven-teen, you will experience a taste explosion. Cool, now blot your mouth with a napkin and taste the water.
Pace yourself. Each course is to be eaten at a pace even with the person to your right. “Can I take that for you?” could be code for, “You ate that (way) too fast.” The time it takes to eat a meal is to be at least half the total time it took to make, even a thirty minute meal, is to take more time to eat than the time it takes to plate.
In public, leave a little of each course on your plate and a little of each drink in each glass. Finish each course at the table. When finished, each course plate (and centerpiece) is to be left in a picture ready condition.
Bus your table between courses. (Take each finished plate away from the table, each time you return with a fresh one.)
If you have to leave the table to telephone, text, or to handle something on your own, leave between courses where possible. Place your napkin on your chair. Say, “Excuse me.” Push in your chair – when you can.
You can have a travel toothbrush in your pocket when you plan to brush your teeth, after the salad (4th) course or after the meal. When in public, step away from the sink when brushing your teeth to allow access to those who are just washing hands. You can do other checks and repairs prior to returning to the table.
OK now you can bus that last plate and glass if you must (when a staff member has not been hired to do so.) Stand and push in your chair – when you can.
The plate is to be carried in your left hand and the glass in your right hand. The glass can be held rested on the palm of the left hand. The table can be crumbed with a napkin in the right hand; both are to be placed under the plate. Avoid making garbage plates.
Acquire social dining etiquette: polished table manners: to do these things. - You may need to take an etiquette camp or class.

Suicide Cannot be Justified - Dare to Live

2011-09-23T00:32:00.009-05:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com

Always dare to live. Suicide cannot be justified. It is your job to live. Vote, revolt, evolve, and even do jail time. See the world for what it could be, and join with others to do something about it. People will tell you that you cannot win, until you do. People have said the same thing to each person who has won any goal, or evolution (something won sure and slow.) Dare to live, and to strive.

For every life taken away there is one less person to vote, one less person to help in the evolution, one less person who could learn something in a penitentiary, and one less person to help mankind. With each suicide, there is one less person, which the world was promised, who would do something about the state the world is in.

For every suicide, someone misses an opportunity to say, "Yes I Can." Each keeps a person from learning from an experience. It keeps the Almighty and someone else from hearing you say, "Here is my better work," or simply, "I'm sorry." Each keeps one other person from saying, "Well done," or "I know you are sorry," and "You're forgiven." These are things you can win.

People will tell you that you cannot break even. Say, "Yes I Can." Ask for peace, but with power. Take power, but only with responsibility. Ensure your freedom, and see that no one else is more free.

Freedom must be demanded in living, as birth is demanded by life. Each must exist. Each must be waited for. Each may have to be taken. Each will come. When you do break even, people will congratulate you.

In daring to live, your life touches another life. You touch people in rows and in generations. When a life is voluntarily extinguished, all the people, who were to have been touched by it, are denied. Once there is a suicide, all the people who were to have been born are murdered. It is for the people in the rows that need to be touched, and in the generations that wait to be born, you should dare to live.

People will tell you that you cannot even quit the game. All too soon you will learn, "I Can." Learn that suicide is not an option. To quit a game, just say, "I need a break." Do this when you are hurt or remotely tired. Always elect to play again. The only way the world can get any better is by each man or woman living in it. Know this. Dare to live.

When your body has had enough, you will be allowed a recess, or to go crazy, if only for a while. Short of that, you will be allowed to take refuge, to rest, to leave, and to go on vacation. You will learn how to survive in your environment. Your body will teach you how to enjoy life. In spite of diversity, dare to live.

Others had a job to do, to prepare a place for you. Others dared to live so that you might; others dared to wait, to be proud of you. They where there to pick you up when you fell, to look where you landed each time you jumped, and to be ready to take you back, until you were really ready to leave. The act of suicide can not be understood. You are not to say to the Almighty or to each person who lived for the good each tried to do for you, "No, thank you." Spend your life daring to live. And with yourself, dare to be gentle.

Business Dining Etiquette - Glass Rules - for College and University Students Climbing the Ladder

2011-07-31T04:13:00.011-05:00

By Harold Almon baesoe.com

1. A pre-dinner drink glass is to be served with a cocktail napkin. In formal tray service, the glass (with or without a napkin) is considered given when the tray is offered.

2. In a commercial dining room, and at a bar, the drink glass and napkin are considered given when set center the space in front of the person who ordered it. Both items can be served by being given directly to you or directly to the person who requested it. In formal service, this practice is to be avoided.

3. At a business social party, when standing, the cocktail napkin is to be picked up and placed on your left hand between the middle and ring finger. It can be held between the index and the middle finger. It may be held be held between the index finger and the thumb. It could be placed on top of a bar or on a table. It is to be used and treated as both a napkin and a saucer. The glass is to be placed on the left palm, and held by the thumb base and the ring and pinky fingers.

Away from a bar, a napkin is to be in your hand before your stand and drink anything: The napkin is to be held under the glass without touching it. A napkin has been seen used as a sleeve and a sleeve wrapped around for a glass. – Avoid doing this.

1. When a drink is required, the glass is to be lifted by the stem by the right hand thumb, index, and middle finger. A glass can be lifted by the bowl, when it contains red wine. It may be lifted at the base, just because. The elbow is to be kept down and in, moved forward; the wrist moved upward, and the beverage is to be poured into the mouth directly from the edge of the glass.

Avoid the crane: lifting your elbow up, so high it could poke someone in the eye, in order to take a drink from a glass.

2. The cocktail straw provided with a drink is called a stirrer. It is to be used as such: only for stirring. It is then to be discarded. It can be removed and held under the glass. It may be held to the side of the glass between the index and middle fingers. It is hard to “Mac” sipping a drink from a stirrer.

3. While drinking, you can avoid slurping or guzzling by closing your upper lip between any liquid and the edge of any glass, and then pouring the liquid into your mouth. You may avoid chewing a beverage by simply swallowing small amounts of it.

4. The number of pre-dinner drinks to have is one; one drink helps make for good conversation with you. More than one drink makes for great conversation for someone else about you. All pre-dinner drinks can be “Virgin:” it is easier to say than “Non-alcoholic.”

5. The glass is to be rested on a bar, or table, atop a cocktail napkin. It can be rested and carried on the palm of the left hand. The right hand is to be kept warm and dry (as much as possible,) and free.

6. After your pre-dinner drink(s,) prepare to eat. The glass and the cocktail napkin provided are to remain in the area where each was served. Both can be set on a separate tray intended for them, on top a side table, or on a bar. This is to be done as a matter of course unless the hostess bids you to take your drink into the dining room with you. Avoid setting a used glass on an in-use buffet table.

Note: The only pre-dinner and dinner drinks for Muslims, Hindus, Mormons, and some Protestants are to be Virgin: non-alcoholic, and/or non-caffeinated. The only drink for a guest of said host when being entertained is to be the same.

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You can decide to be prepared with more than having cards. You may have handy an address to a just updated profile on a networking site, or a newly updated bio-benefit resume. You could have free tickets to an upcoming event to which you might invite someone, after an introduction.

Business Dining Etiquette - Drinks to Have - for College and University Students Climbing the Ladder

2011-07-31T04:00:00.006-05:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com

Station Three -- The Line to the Bar

Normally the line to the bar leads to an area set in the corner of a room. It can be an area for secondary introductions.

At the bar, a host will most likely call on someone to prepare a pre-dinner drink for you. At a no-host event, you will order and get a pre-dinner drink for yourself after you have said, "Hello" and "How are you" to people near you.

Someone will say, “What can I get you?" It is the same as what drink can you have and call by name?

A pre-dinner drink, called an aperitif: (used to stimulate an appetite,) could be made available at the bar (or at the table.) Common choices are Dubonnet, Lillet, Campari, and Vermouth.

This is mock tail hour. You may have

Water Always (sparkling-mineral) or (tap – flat)

Soda Water/lime Better

Soft Drink Sometimes (Virgin: Rob Roy, or for her a Shirley Temple)

Alcohol Never (Except for the 1 when you ought.)

You might have a mock-alcohol drink: a virgin (anything.)

Surviving the Parent Company - A Game Called Get Along

2011-07-29T11:09:00.004-05:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com

In business, you will learn A Game Called Get Along. You will title it, "Nobody Is Ever Wrong." To your delight, you will learn that anybody can be, "Not right." Learn how to talk to everybody. Learn how to request a specific desired action. Learn a specific way to ask for what you want, and to ask to have how you are being treated changed. Coordinate your request with the person you report to, if that is applicable. Give that person time. Even after a person has made a decision, he or she could decide to have a change of mind.

When someone is not right, learn to simply say, "I feel what has happened is not right." Ask, "Can we talk about it?" Add, "I want to get what I have contracted for," "I want (a do over) to continue my place, my job," or "working for or with you," or "I want to understand." Say, "Such and such says this is to be done this way. How do you feel about it?" "How do you think we should handle it," or "What do you think we should do?"

Doing this may allow you to find out that Such and such is a dummy, or outdated, or that the information is new, and you have just passed it. A two-to-three week wait to see it done over will not really hurt you. Get along with everybody. No business skill is more important than this, not even your considerable ability.

Without negating your need to feel a sense of accomplishment, understand that when you are new in place, and with each change you introduce, everyone will go through a transition. Under scrutiny will be your style, opinions, and priorities. These will be used to judge the quality of your work and performance.

Once you have gained respect, and with time, people will be more receptive, and your work will improve dramatically. "Never take other people too seriously."

__________

Remember the purpose of work; “It is to put a roof over your head and beans in the pot,” and (it) is to… retire. A family Elder taught this is very nice. It will make sure you are never truly homeless. The purpose of work however, is to retire twice. It will make sure your can support an advanced quality of life. He did. At 77 he married again, she was 41. At this writing they are still together, he must be 103.

Male Personal Grooming - Smelling Too Good

2011-07-26T17:52:00.004-05:00

By Harold Almon baesoe.com/

Have a deodorant of choice. Consider its use as mandatory. You can apply one before going to bed. After a few days, this action will show daytime benefit. If your armpits become irritated switch scents before switching labels. You may use White vinegar instead of a deodorant. You could use 91% rubbing alcohol. Do this with a cloth or cotton ball. You might use lemon juice. Additionally a body powder or a body lotion has been seen used to assist in combating overall body odor. Avoid antiperspirants. Have a scent of your own. Eat leafy vegetables. You can eat parsley, chopped in salad, with or with out lemon over it. It may assist in giving your body a clean musty scent. You could wear matched toiletries in the same scent. You might shop for odor free toiletries and top off unscented items with a spray of a light scent of cologne. Hold the bottle twelve inches away. Spray, and then walk into it. Even an animal does not spray itself intentionally-much. Want more? At night, you might spray away from the back of your knees, or the panels to your bedroom door. Know this; too much of your cologne could be hazardous to other people’s health. There is such a thing as being too clean and smelling too good, but generally people will forgive you.

Forget one of these actions, and someone will remember that there was something they really did mean to tell you. At home, you can forgo deodorant for the last day before your weekend, and just rinse. For social reasons you may want to develop a natural musky scent.

Remember after three days fresh bodies and fish begin to stink; back to deodorant, or to what you use as a deodorant. Avoid Body odor being the number one turn-off listed by people who used to know you. Know that the use of too much cologne could be listed as turn-off number three.

Old Spice works still because daddies wear it. A son does well to make use of his Father’s Christmas present.

You can elect to have a natural scent. You may attract and mark someone with it. It may be a funky signature scent for which someone could remember you, or recall your past presence. Avoid it being just funk.

Male Personal Grooming - Moisturizing

2011-07-26T08:31:00.011-05:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com/

Moisturize your skin, after a shower or a bath. When moisturizing your face take care to do your eye wells, your lips, and do behind your ears. Let it dry in. This is why some people have few wrinkles, and soft skin. Moisturizer is wax for the skin. Use a lotion with cocoa butter or shea butter over one with aloe. You can use a baby lotion, (remember.) You may use a lotion for your skin, and oil for your feet. When caught short you could use a petroleum jelly over having clean, dry, and exposed skin. A moisturizer is to be applied to your body from the head down. It can reduce body odor when dark skin and hair is exposed to heat. If you do not do this, when it gets hot, your body will oil itself (and it will not smell half as good.) Do it and you will have softer skin, fewer wrinkles, and smell better. You might then use a sunless tanning cream that contains a SPF 15 or more sun block, when you are to have an extended stay outside. Avoid placing it in the wells of your eyes.

My mother use to say, “Come here baby. Let momma put something on ya.” And I got moisturized, face, eye wells, and behind the ears. Then she’d say, “Pouch out baby, pouch out.” And with the same lotion she moisturized my lips until the texture changed to soft. Lo these many years I have smooth skin, soft lips, and few wrinkles, and can beat most young at the squint test. All skin cracks; what saves skin is not the genes it’s the Jergens. ® You can man up and use the kind that is unscented. Still believe its genes? Give the Jergens ® back.

Note: when you are going to exercise, wash the Jergens ® from the wells of your eyes. Avoid pushing through it. Change lotion every month. Something from the outside (or dirty hands) can contaminate the eye. You can wash the bottle and your skin with distilled vinegar or 91%alcohol. You may see a doctor if irritation persists. (This happened one time in over many years of doing this. In the event of an onset of acne, you can still preserve your eye wells, ears, and lips. Ask a professional about another moisturizer that can protect your face. You can try 91% alcohol on shiny or oily skin in the interim. Not sure if it will stop the shine. Oh yes, the test. Look into a mirror. Squint one eye; see the wrinkles, at the sides of your eyes, and the skin; the fewer wrinkles the more you win. You only get one (skin.) You would not wash your car, dry it, and set it unprotected in the sun. Moisturizer takes the place of wax on the face. It may go a long way in keeping you looking like new. This is harder to do after wrinkles set in or after oxidation. Check your wrinkles against those of a young friend. The old ones do not even tell about the test, and do not challenge them.

Skin is to be cared for. Apply a water-based moisturizer to your skin to seal and protect your face after it has been exposed to a sharp blade. Use a moisturizer which has no scent, or which contains a scent which is compatible with your after shave. You may apply an after shave at this time. Allow it to dry, and then apply a water-based moisturizer to your face. Do your whole face. It is your first defense against wrinkles. It can protect and make skin less prone to irritation: Pseudo folliculitus barbae: an inflammation of hair follicles. Feel your facial skin. Say, " Mmmm."

Male Care Matters That Talk III – Power Sex

2011-07-25T01:24:00.003-05:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com

When you plan on being intimate Safe sex - is power sex. Safe sex begins with Latex. The knowledge that you are definitely disease free (DDF) is power only until just after your last partner. Get a new partner and you are due a new free confidential test for HIV or a STD. Want a commitment ceremony; every six months to a year get a re-test.

Talk to your partner; until the results are in, practice safe sex. Masturbation, hugging, cuddling, massage, and “dry-humping” without insertion are all safe since no bodily fluids are exchanged. Tears and saliva can not carry enough HIV to be dangerous. Still, avoid making out or kissing just after eating, brushing, or flossing. Avoid kissing if there are sores or cuts in one or both mouths. “Safe?” OK kiss away.

When planning on hooking up: sex with insertion. Get made in the United States of America (USA) latex condoms. The only kinds that will protect you against HIV & STDs.

Condoms made in the USA have to meet very stiff requirements (pun unintended.) Avoid taking a condom out of its sealed packaging until you are ready to use it. Get the right size. Practice: use one before you need one. Dab water or a water-based lubricant inside the tip of the condom. You can use Wet® or Corn Huskers® lotion, or one of your choosing.

Avoid using oil base lubricants such as cooking oil, Mineral Oil, baby oil, petroleum jelly, butter, and/or vegetable or olive oil. They can make a condom break in minutes. Place the condom against the head of an erect penis. Leave some space at the tip for semen. You can use a non-reservoir condom for head. If said penis is uncut, pull back the foreskin before putting on the condom. Hold onto the tip. Press the air out of it as you unroll it completely to the base. For extra protection, you can use two. (I kid. I think. I do not know who you do.) To assist penetration use plenty of the same water based lubricant on the outside of the condom. If you have a reaction, try another brand of lubricant.

Immediately after ejaculation hold the base of the condom and pull out. You can pull out before ejaculation. Avoid ever reusing a condom. If you have a reaction to Latex, try condoms made of polyurethane (plastic.) Bare back is for horse riding. Saddle up. Condoms feel better than sleeping alone.

Using your fingers? If you use your fingers during sex make sure that your fingernails are trimmed, clean, and smooth. You can use a vinyl glove or a finger cot / condom for finger insertion (and maybe with a toy.) After, keep your fingers out of your mouth and out of your partner’s mouth. Avoid sharing toys until each has been cleaned thoroughly with soap and water, and then with bleach, or 91% rubbing alcohol (It can kill HIV.) You may elect to clean each with cola, in a pinch. You could just cover each with a new vinyl product for each person using it.

Avoid direct mouth contact with any sex organ or entry point. You can use your nose if you want a new sensation for the both of you. If and when you engage in non-direct mouth contact, you can use an unrolled condom cut to the center. You may use a dental dam. You could use non-micro-wave able food wrap. Open it up and stretch it over the part of your partner’s body you are going to play with.

Each condom or dam could be covered with honey, jellies, powdered sugar, and/or syrups. Avoid such toppings as whipped creams, chocolate sauce, peanut butter, and/or liquors. They can weaken a condom and make it break.

O.K. where did you place that condom, find that toy, abstain if you like. Stay alive. Enjoy.

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No Condom – Ok by me. About STDs -

You want to be the giver or the receiver - Are you crazy?

There are bugs out there, worse yet, there are bug spreaders, and bug chasers, who willingly share with you – their passion. There is a reason not to swim without scuba gear in polluted waters.

The answer given to a Christian man who asked, Should I marry now, or get my PhD? “It is good for a man, not to touch a woman… It is better to marry than to burn.” I have no idea what is said in each religion, or what each man’s morays or needs may be. I did go to the Wedding.

Business Dinner Etiquette - Salad After Meat or Another Class Before You Eat

2011-02-19T08:32:00.018-06:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com
Why ask about/ attend a class in Business Dinner Etiquette, because you can & as a friend, "Manners to Etiquette" Outshine the Competition.
Education and sophistication are our intellectual and social presents to a community. Avoid showing up "One hand just a long as the other."
Each of us lives on a given tier. You do not have to wait to the get to the next tier to prepare. Social skills are presents to a community.
Education is a social passport. A transcript is a ticket to where you get to sit. Etiquette is a key to access: how (you fit and how) long you get to stay.
Education without sophistication leads to isolation. There is a social requirement to academic refinement. Etiquette is a key to access.
Education and sophistication are the air in which we rise. Each tier has a required skill set. Fail to prepare and you will rise in a funnel.
A doctorate without etiquette is an awkward fit, is inadequate. Even you would not want to be around you - if you knew. And now you do.
You have paid, or will pay, for the cost of the food; the way you eat reflects on you and the company you represent.

Outshine the competition

Master events such as business luncheons and formal dinners

Dining and Etiquette
Done Best with
Education & Practice

Class Before You Eat

I Have Seen You Eat
We Can Meet

Valtentines Day Etiquette

2011-02-14T17:33:00.000-06:00

By Harold Almon baesoe.com

This year Valentines Day is on Monday. Yes, you still have to go to work; take the cell; call someone. There can be hugs and kisses, X's and O's, but actually what someone is looking to see is roses and chocolates. It can be a single red rose, she wakes up to, she will tell them so, and chocolates, enough to share with the folks at the office.

You could wake up early, and share Breakfast in bed. The menu: Orange Juice with or without something sparkling, in it, Croissants and Cream Cheese and fruit with berries and Crème, – on a tray with a place mat. Red silly. Oh yes and coffee, French Vanilla. – and chocolate chips. A menu card may list the courses for her. A favorite flower might go in a bud vase or to be lain across the tray.

Flowers are to be sent to her office or home, near to someone to whom she is going to boast to about you. There is to be a card that on the outside says, “From Your Valentine:” or “For my Valentine.” On the inside it can say, “ I Honor, Appreciate, Thank, Crave, and Love You. - Circle the words at will. I do." If you want someone new to be your Valentine your card might read, “If I declare war on you, would that help you capture me?” The card is to go inside an envelope: front facing to the back.

At the door – on the return, there might be Balloons with a note that says, “Love lives within.” A bubble bath: if she never takes it. A movie rental: This night: A Star is Born. A note could say, “You should be sleepy. I have loved you all day while you were away.” There is to be time to take that walk ‘cause you promised, to watch a sunset, and a promise to love her until the earth stops spinning and the sun no longer returns. There is to be dinner, ordered in (the restaurant will need the seats, or a rest from Friday and Saturday.) It can be a picnic on the floor in front of the TV: I would say fireplace,- and maybe, but this too is a movie rental night. The are to be Candles: Candle wicks are to be pre-lit, put out, and then ready to be lit again, and Karats when you can afford it. "A man is judged by the size of the jewelry on his woman’s hand." She has three months salary on it." I know, but that was a long time ago. Time for something new. For dinner you will need another place setting and another menu card (Sign this one at the end of the night.) For now, establish a cover: a place setting for one. Then make another. – Next to her place setting you may place a piece of chocolate or a chocolate rose (from a dollar store.) For food: Your caterer can be a local restaurant or grocery store. It can be a Big Mac- or a heart shaped pizza - something… Served on a plate. Cut in half. There is to be something to drink with that. Blanc de Blanc, or it can be "Virgin." There is to be dessert: Ice cream or a Milk shake with White Chocolate & Raspberries, in a glass & Coffee, in a cup: & Cherry almond Biscotti. You get my drift.

And there is to be sleep with rose petals placed inside a pillow, so that when laundry is done, the day is remembered. There is to be a mint- what’s next goes best without bad breath…There is to be a gift: something stuffed or that can be kept forever, and a card that could read, “You should sleep well tonight. I have loved you all day long." "Again – my friend." You can start to do part or all of the above on any random Tuesday. Hurry, it is almost Valentines morning.

For My Valentine

You should know

I would defy law, and risk death

for the previlege of marrying you again.

Happy Valentines Day

Did I tell you,

I would give up war

for the opportunity

of giving you a

home and loving you

Table Manners - Thought Pondored While You Were Eating - Etiquette for College and University Students

2011-01-07T10:45:00.004-06:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com

Educated eating is not to take a beating at a university:9 units in living skills is to accompany each degree: (teach) the civil side of business.

Thoughts pondered while you were drinking from your Sippy cup - what is the stuff in it and (in here) why is it you are using one.

I was impressed with your intellect. I am still getting over watching you (feeding) eating.
Crumpled napkin on the table, cigarette behind the ear, teeth marks everywhere, and with that sophistication, an I Phone. Who would have known.
Biting what is being eaten from a bag is how Beauty does her feeding. She of course is a horse.
When is a bag not a plate, when you can ask for one. When sitting, a wrapper can be used as a plate, a better fate and sight than as a sleeve for a sandwich.
A napkin on the table nice, placed on the knee for eating or drinking at table, better.
What we are teaching chemistry, not male care, engineering not eating, and all too clear, why signs appear, "Your mother does not work here."
If it is for my sake you made your bag a garbage plate? You should not have, really... even for me.
One dining facility is to have real plates, knives, forks, spoons, glasses, coffee cups, saucers and napkins. Students need the practice establishing and maintaining a cover: (A Place Setting for One.)

If students are to overcome informal United States of America Café ways they must have exposure to better equipped cafeterias, and formal dining rooms.

Students need the practice establishing a cover; a place setting for one. And hosting dining parties as if they could become one.

“My degree for a cup.” Once I graduate, someone will want to take me to lunch. There the person will see I have little practice using one.

How are you going to attract a date if all you make are garbage plates. When finished napkin on the side.

While you were drinking from that opened can, a thought, what a place for a straw, and then from a cup w/o a lid,- a straw? Go figure.

If you do not teach class with class what you get is a clod with a degree. Change that. Polish gently.

If the place you drink coffee is the only cafe where you can not get "A cup for here, you have been in the fast food lane too long.

A tray made for someone else requires a place mat. That's why that paper at Mcky Ds and no mats at a cafeteria or buffet. E(tiqutte) is everywhere.

Business Dining Etiquette - Soup Rules - for College and University Students Climbing the Ladder

2011-01-04T10:27:00.014-06:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com
Soup can be served as a first course. Soup in a bowl or cup is to be served on an underlying plate. Soup can be served in a soup plate with or without being placed on an underlying plate. The plate may be set atop a show or charger plate.
1. Soup is to be eaten as follows, “As the ship goes out to sea I spoon my soup away from me.” The spoon is to be balanced, loaded, locked, and then lifted to the mouth and the soup taken in from side of it. Avoid blowing soup, (same as for coffee.) Soup that is too hot can be stirred to be cooled. It may be allowed to stand until it is palatable. The bowl or plate may be tipped away from you and a spoon used to get the last of any item in it. You could avoid doing this. Soup served in a cup can be eaten by using a spoon or by picking up the cup by the handle(s) and drinking the item in it in small silent sips (pours.)
2. Soup can be served with croutons. Croutons may be eaten by placing them in the vessel a few at a time and eating them with the soup. Crackers are to be eaten separately from the soup. Crackers can be crumbled into chowder, but this is to be done only at a very informal meal.
3. Soup may be served with a relish tray. Items on it are considered finger foods, and picked up with them. Each person can take up to two of each item and place them on a bread and butter plate.
4. Relish tray items may be placed on the edge of an underlying plate in the absence of a bread and butter plate. Olive pits could be taken out of the mouth with the thumb and the index finger and placed on the left edge of the plate.
5. The rest position for the spoon is handle in the four o’clock position. The finished position for a spoon in a plate is at four o’clock. The finished position for a spoon served with a bowl or cup is on the right side of the underlying plate.
6. Sherry may be served with a soup course. A sherry glass is to be set in formation to the right of the last wine glass. It can be filled half- full, without being lifted from the table. The glass is to be held by the stem in the right hand when drinking from it. It is to be set back in the position for it when the drink is rested or finished. Sherry could be omitted.

Business Dining Etiquette - Spoon Rules - for College and University Students Climbing the Ladder

2011-01-04T05:19:00.006-06:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com

The rule, "Go from the outside in," is understood to mean, "in kind." When the table is correctly set, first all the knives are set, then all the spoons are set together, placed to the right of the last knife, set bowl-up or bowl-down to match the fork(s,) and the spoon for coffee is omitted from the setting. Here is how the spoon rules work. The first spoon is to be a cream (round) soup spoon, or a place (table) spoon. The latter is primarily used for soup, melon, or at breakfast for cereal. The second spoon is to be placed to the left of the first spoon. It can be placed above the place setting, with the handle facing to the right. It is used only for dessert. In formal service, this is a place spoon. A fork to be used with a dessert spoon may be placed below it handle facing to the left. In a maid-less place setting, the third spoon used for coffee may be placed to the right of the last spoon, or to the right of the last knife when no other spoon is used. When wishing to employ the rule go from the outside in the third spoon could be omitted from the place setting, and be brought in when coffee is served. Spoon rules follow the Rule of Three: no more than three spoons (or any items of flatware of the same kind) are to be set in a place setting at any one time.

Business Dining Etiquette - Chicken Manners - for College and University Students Climbing the Ladder

2011-01-03T17:34:00.009-06:00

by Harold Almon baesoe.com
The etiquette: When chicken is to be eaten under a roof, it is to be eaten with a knife and a fork. It is no longer a finger food. Even the Colonel provides plates, knives, and forks, and Staff will ask, “Will this be “To go” or for our dining room?” The company knows the rule. After you are asked, what you do with that bucket or box reflects on you.
1. Establish a cover: a place setting for one. Serve a plate.
Practice your "Chicken manners."
2. The portion to be eaten is placed in the "work" bottom area of the plate. You’ve seen the pictures. The skin can be removed by the fork being used to hold the item in place, and the knife being used to cut the end of it. Then it may be used to gently roll the skin back toward the back of the fork. The skin could be set aside to the right to be eaten later or to the left to be discarded.
3. The chicken piece is to be speared with the fork held in the left hand and cut: pressed with the knife in the right and a small piece can then be flicked gently away. More delicately now, the meat is to be sliced with the grain and cut across it into manageable portions one or two pieces at a time. Then the fork is used to lift each portion to the mouth.
4. Chicken joined by a joint can be separated by the fork being used to hold the item in place and the knife at the joint being drawn backwards to cut the item into separate parts. It can be pressed down and gently flicked to complete the joint separation. Then pieces might be cut, sliced, and eaten.
5. The part of the chicken that cannot be cut, flicked away, and sliced with a knife and fork is simply left (- at least ‘til you get to the kitchen.) -
Small poultry items can be eaten as much as practical with a knife and fork and then finished with the fingers. When served cold, at picnics, at the beach, on boats, and during very informal meals outside, even chicken may be eaten with the fingers.

Etiquette Books for College and University Students - At Ease Press baesoe.com

2009-09-24T09:49:00.003-05:00